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lindajayf
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Posted on Mon, Apr 17, 2006 09:23

Its been on my mind for a while having joined several international sites that most people want to meet people within several miles of the town they live in. I see no reason why living in the UK and striking up a friendship with someone in the U.S or Austrailia would be a problem. People are looking for soul-mates or 'the one', but they're not prepared to go beyond there own zip code to find them!!

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Posted on Thu, Oct 07, 2010 19:35

I don't mind long distance relationship I actually would prefer to find a man from another country because I am so tired of American man, but beware of men that spin you so many fantasies. I met a man online from Norway,and we really clicked on every level its been a year now we been talking online, well I kept asking him when was he going to visit! since he said he would and me being single mom, I just cant get up and go to Norway that easily. I figured he is single with no kids its much easier for him to come here, all he would say is yes I know I need to be more pro-active, and he would say you just wait I'm going to prove I mean what I say, just give him time til school lets out (he is a teacher) so I was waiting and waiting for the day to come when he announces his plans to come see me. Well I noticed talk on visiting all of sudden died out, and I refused to badger anymore. Well the jerk gets online and is all excited and he like "hey guess what I bought my tickets today" and my heart starts to race and he says yeah my tickets to Italy !!( he usually travels to Italy every year,he has loads of friends there since he lived there before) yes ladies I got duped big time!! I was so heartbroken! well we still talk and he throws same old shit around how he going to come to visit and he flirts, and I don't here from him for days !! I refuse to show how much he hurt me so I act like nothing happen. At least I know a Spade is Spade no matter how nice it says it isn't. Friendship and that is all..


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Posted on Fri, Apr 28, 2006 19:37

I met who I though was the light of my life online, he was from England and I was here. He came to visit for 3 weeks then for 3 months, that's when he proposed. I thought it was forever but he called me one day and broke it off. I found out the next day he was spending the night with a gal he had me 3 weeks earlier that lived nearby. It has taken many months for me to deal with the hurt but it gets easier as time goes on so I would say be open to all possibilities but be cautious with your heart. Oh, one last note he may have dropped me like a rock but I kept his!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL Ciao 4 now!


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Posted on Wed, Apr 26, 2006 08:37

I wouldn't mind someone from another country as a email pal but their are problems with seeing an international "friend" as something more than just a friend. 1) Your whole relationship consist of e-mail, phone, whatever. 2) If you don't have money to travel your never going to meet. 3) Real life takes over and far distance relationships with someone you haven't meet evaporate in the morning light like a good dream that you don't remember but makes you smile anyway.


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Posted on Mon, Apr 24, 2006 14:27

International relationships are great- But beware!!!!!!!!!! I myself was caught up in one & also fell very much in love with this man. After spending (much) time with him & taking an extended trip to be with him, only to return after a few months to get. Be careful with whom you are speaking & take your time with them, if things start happening where you are being asked to send a little $ here & there, keep you eyes open. There is a good chance that you may get in to something you later find out isn't what you thought it was. I wasn't stupid - I took allot of time getting to know this person and bad things went down. Best of luck!


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Posted on Sun, Apr 23, 2006 10:32

Going the extra mile is one thing but realistically I'd prefer to keep the search within my own country. If I was on holday and met someone I really connected with that would be a different matter, but I would not actively seek to find someone in a place so far away you couldn't pop over to see them at a weekend without a whole heap of planning and expense and losing most of the time travelling and waiting around in airports. It's not a case of right and wrong, more a case of what's right for each individual. For me it would be far from ideal - I want to be with someone I can actually spend time with.


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Posted on Sun, Apr 23, 2006 09:23

Three words: * * Nothing is imposiible.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 20, 2006 10:40

I'm really pleased for you Flashgirl!! I'm aware that sometimes it seems pointless because of distance but you can't help being attracted to a profile or comments made and chatting on IM can give you a real sense of a person's personality. I do understand hesitance communicating with people far away but i'm prepared to take the chance!! i wish you the best of luck hun - keep me posted on how it goes!! xx


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Posted on Wed, Apr 19, 2006 18:37

Hello, I just wanted to say that I have been chatting with and i have met up with a man who lives 2582 miles from where I live and We are having a blast. I like the idea that we are forced to communicate more effectivly and we have to learn each others personalities on the phone and in type. If the relationship develops to where we need to make the decision on who moves.... i would have no hesitation in relocating for the right kind of love. and when we meet in person the time we spent really solidified that i really liked him a lot. and just a side note i almost didnt respond to his IM, but there was something about his profile that i really liked, plus he was a hoot on the IM. so there are some who will go to great lengths and different zip codes for love.


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Posted on Wed, Apr 19, 2006 18:26

Hey you can chat with me an maybe we can talk about some things


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Posted on Wed, Apr 19, 2006 18:10

** This was My Post.... Not sure why it has shown up under a male profile** FIX IT LF !!! Well darlin'... Unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, Reality is the number one reason most of us dont breech international waters. Sure, many would go to the ends of the earth to find their match, but most of us tend to stick to what our pocket books and jobs will allow us to explore. More often than not, the radius isn't far beyond our own states. Then you have the "get to know you" factor. How well can you really get to know a person via the internet? You can learn alot, but it does nothing for the face to face chemistry encounter. For example... I chatted with an awsomely wonderful man for a while. We clicked in every way. I was floored that a man as gorgeously handsome as he was could be interested in me. Each chat left me weak in the knees and droolin', wishin and hoping that he could be 'the one'. He was a true Mans' man. When the day came to finally meet face to face, the 5 hours we spent together left me feeling like I'd spent the afternoon with my Brother. I was floored! I felt nothing romantic for him at all. He was as perfect face to face as he had been online, but it just wasn't there. No harm done, nothing lost, and had a very pleasant afternoon, made a new friend. I can only imagine how difficult long distance hook ups would be in this area, let alone an International one. It's one thing to have a thousand miles between you, and another to have an entire ocean. Just my opinion...


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Posted on Tue, Apr 18, 2006 16:18

Personally I have no desire to move out of my home country. My family and my life are here as well as that of my daughters. For that reason I usually don't start anything with men overseas unless it's just as friends. If they are willing to relocate, then it would be ok. Some people are and some aren't. Besides, trying to get to know someone overseas is hard. You can't meet and go out to do things. There are many cultural differences as well. It's not impossible, but it's much more difficult. Just my thoughts.


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Posted on Tue, Apr 18, 2006 06:39

i agree some times you have to go that extra mile to find true love x


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