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posted 12/30/2008


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Friends,

The reality has finally set in. Single parenting is tough. Doing it while committing to the Christian walk while doing so is tougher.

I have been single now for 9 years, by choice, and only recently have I considered dating. I don't know how committed to 'walking the walk' any of you are, but hopefully you can understand how daunting that is.

Being divorced, you most likely enjoyed/relished/cherished the physical intimacy that went along with being married, just as God intended. The truth is, I was not Christian when I was married, and only became Christian after a perilous separation and divorce.

Now that I am Christian, and never having dated with this new set of boundaries, it's more than a little... frightening.

I know my son is watching, and if I am going to expect him to believe what I have taught him about our Christian values, I have to hold true all the way. But 'old me' comes up and keeps reminding how much easier it used to be.

Yes, it's scary. Yes, I know that 99.99% of the people that view my profile are more than likely to close my profile immediately when they catch wind that I'm not for sale -- or sample.

But as my son said tonight (took my breath away), "Trust God, Mom. His timing is perfect. Never late, never early. He'll bring the right one to you." Wow.

Snif....He is one amazing kid.\

Christian parents, if there is even one other of you out there, be encouraged. This is not imaginary, this is not play, and when you feel tempted to compromise, DO NOT LOSE HEART. The boundaries we're given (aka the fence around His yard) are more for our own protection (emotionally, physically, psychologically and relationally) than anything else. If we stay 'in the yard', we can certainly trust in His protction, guidance, and reward.

Keep in the yard, friends.

And God bless.


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Yours in Christ, Lambchop "For we are His workmanship, , created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them" -- Ephesians 2:10
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petale46
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commented 01/06/2009


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jjigl

The only great reminder I need personnally is myself. I believe I'm worth discovering, knowing and waiting for. I believe that this ultimate connection with a person is something that evolve through time, not on a first date. Sex on a first date is something purely physical, like eating or drinking... Sex to me is more then that... and for it to be really, and I mean really really, earth shattering good... it requires time and the pleasure of anticipation.


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commented 01/06/2009


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Funny... I'm not an atheist, I'd say I'm more against religion... but that's my problem. However like you I don't beleive in sale or sample as you say for an entirely other set of reasons.

I believe dating is about discovering a person, feeling the possibility for compatibility between us.

I also believe for sex to be great, to be more then just a physical relase, you have to know the other person, be attracted by more then their looks. Sex is something precious to me, a part of me I only give to men I feel worthy of it. If I don't feel a deep connection with the person, no way I'm sleeping with him and I do believe a deep connection requires more then a coffee and a donut.


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commented 12/30/2008


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Your post made me tear up a little too. That is one wise young man that you have there. Just remember that anytime you feel like straying from you principles or feeling like waiting is not worth it, you have a great reminder of why it is so important for you to stick to your convictions.

Take care.


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