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Posted on Mon, Apr 26, 2010 11:09

Wow!!! It is amazing that there is such a stigma attached to young people particularly young women. Some of us are smart, articulate, and are mature to withstand any test that comes our way. I wonder why some men particularly older see the age and automatically assume that we are immature. I will soon be 24 years of age and I have not been a fool thus far and I do not plan on becoming one. We have more to offer than an easy lay. So I would appreciate if you all will help me to understand why older men think they can manipulate younger women?


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Posted on Fri, May 21, 2010 16:19

Well, age + experience = wisdom. That's been the typical formula. But, now the formula has evolved. Because you have to throw in upbringing. With the proper lessons from our parents, we gain their wisdom without the experience. In our society where babies are having babies, there's been a lack of parenting. So, it's more likely than not that a woman who is 21 will be extremely immature. And chances are she will remain immature as she gets older because she hasn't had the proper tools to take her experiences and learn from them. I used to associate age with maturity level. But, since I've been in the dating scene, I've seen very mature 20 year olds and equally immature 40 year olds. So, I no longer assume that young equals dumb. It's a case by case basis.

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Posted on Sun, May 09, 2010 20:02

I've been gone so long. I'm Steff... just want to say... I was a manipulated young woman. We're easier. That's just it. As much as women love to pride themselves on being smarter than men...we have all those damn attachment issues that they don't struggle with as much. Now, this could just be how I see things. Of course I love older men... not too old though. LOL Anywho, I consider myself to be pretty smart, and can see a decent amount of bullshit when it peaks around the corner but... the fact of the matter is... we're younger and in a lot of cases a little more eager to please...even if it means compromising more so than the man. So... a lot of times with May- December romances... many men feel that if they can stretch an inch into a foot... as long as he's charming enough, distinguished "in our eyes" enough- he can stretch you into a different person - a.k.a. more accepting of all his flaws, more needy for his attention only... and so on. Then things are jacked up by that point because they usually began to lose interest anyway because you're no longer the cutie that caught their attention in the first place. Really- I just think it depends on WHICH older man you deal with. But there is one thing you have to remember. The older a person is... usually the more set in their ways they can be. This... I have learned.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 20:42

@WWguy: Thanks for your comment. I have experienced this situation on many occassions. Maybe the factor is not my age. Maybe just the unfortunate circumstance of meeting the wrong people who think women in general are no good for anything other than sex. The title was derived from a saying that I heard in a song and seemed catchy. Hey, it got enough people's attention. It did its job. Again thanks for your comment. @AmuseMe: Thanks for your comment. The title was meant to be catchy not sexual explicit in any way. I will be 24 very soon. I am very different from the average 24 year old woman. I just want to be respected as the lady who I am. I do see how it would be easy for the people who place a "one size fits" all philosophy on every young woman. Again I thank you for your comment.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 19:30

Geeze.. I post about a lawn mower incident and it gets removed.. she writes cum in her subject line and no one says a word! Someone doesn't like me. :( To be on topic though... because they know that young women are more susceptible to their wiles and lies than the older more seasoned woman would be. I know you are almost 24... but one NEVER stops learning and growing.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 15:39

Willforlove, I understand you whole-heartedly. Why try to manipulate someone. Especially, if you are suppose to love them. It is hard when you are a sensitive person in a whole with selfish individuals. However, I am learning to take life as it comes and not accept what someone says at face value. You have to get to know all of me. Not just the physical (sexual) part of me. Know my heart and soul first. Thanks Willforlove.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 14:55

I'm not sure why the men you have found do that...I guess for personal pleasure.  I have found that I am on the receiving end of this 'manipulation' of which you speak.  It sucks...I get all emotionally attatched and then boom!  I guess its cause I'm the 'doormat' type, if that makes any sense.  It isn't just men that do it though, its everyone!  I feel your pain.



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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 09:04

Elaine, Wow! You sound like you are something else. LOL! The kind of man that I want is kind, intelligent, a little nerdy, has ambition, and most of all honest. I like someone with a little edge to them that can be assertive at times, but most of all realizes that I am my own woman. I do not like arguing or anything of that nature. I usually find myself attracted to mean in their late 20's to mid 40's. I guess it just works out that way. I do not care about race at all. As far as I am concerned we are all apart of one race the human race. Most of all I would like a man who has his own mind and is patient with me.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 01:29

Look at it this way: "Dumb" is there because it rhymes and "Full of (their) Cum" is just wishful thinking. I haven't observed that attitude toward younger women enough to support your generalization but I have heard the phrase. I'm guessing that it originated in porn. Another way of looking at it is that they think that anyone who is full of (their) cum is dumb (and that may be true). Con artists and aggressive sales people often seem to assume that everyone else is dumber than they. I would suggest that the attitude fits male manipulators in general better than older men in general.


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Posted on Wed, Apr 28, 2010 14:35

Say what is on your mind and don't be shy to hold back anything...LOL. Sounds like you got your S*** together... Now what kind of fella do you want? That is what we wanna know! Details gurl... not just routine stuff. Dish! Elaine


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Posted on Wed, Apr 28, 2010 09:44

Thank you Qadesh for your comment. I understand that people are they way they are. I was just curious as to why they would assume it. I guess some questions we will never find answers to. Thank you. We indeed live in a very strange world but I intend to make the best out of it.


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Posted on Tue, Apr 27, 2010 10:33

Because they can and they do. Roll with it, as you seem to be doing already. Keep in mind that this format allows all to be who they are (hopefully) and who they might want to be. It's a strange world. Be well. Qadesh


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