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Posted on Wed, Jul 07, 2010 22:16

Is it me or does true love seem to be non-existent? It seems as though casual flings, cheating, and being dishonest have become the norm. What ever happened to true romance? What happened to men wanting respectable and good women? LARGE friends guys please give me your opinions.


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Posted on Mon, Jul 04, 2011 10:56

I love it, everytime a woman has a bad experience she is ready to give up and questions if love really exist. Pity, we dont look at the instances where love does exist. And if for you or other ladies it means having a man in your life..well its 2011, eventually we will be able to BUILD one...lololol...but for now. Just make sure you have something to actually give while searching for this love you say doesnt exist. Its not sitting on a shelf waiting for you to purchase it. And the saying holds true...IT TAKES TWO. So you may kiss a whole lot of frogs before you find your prince or princess, but the only place SUCCESS comes before WORK is in the dictionary.



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Posted on Thu, Jul 29, 2010 06:04

Hi, So what does it mean when someone says that they like lots of curves, but yet they indicate in their profile that they want someone athletic and slim? I'm interested to know why you haven't married or found "Mrs Right" before. Of course, you are not obliged to answer but it would be interesting to hear your reasoning :D


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Posted on Tue, Jul 20, 2010 10:10

I have to agree.  I am kinda in the same boat that you are Holla.  I haven't found anyone that isn't interested in just casual and if they are it's really hard to know exactly what they think is a serious relationship.

*sigh*  It is hard.  Just know that at some point we will both find that one guy and be open to new experiences :)



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Posted on Tue, Jul 13, 2010 09:23

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Is it me or does true love seem to be non-existent? It seems as though casual flings, cheating, and being dishonest have become the norm. What ever happened to true romance? What happened to men wanting respectable and good women? LARGE friends guys please give me your opinions.




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Posted on Sat, Jul 10, 2010 10:30

Please don't give up.  Yes  - for every real man that you meet here, you will also meet 3 scammers.  I was also surprised and dissapointed by the number of married men !  But I still believe in love.  I hope you do too. There has to be men who are here for the right reasons. Just go with your instincts, if someone is moving to fast or wants something  - you'll feel uncomfortable.  Trust your feelings.  I truly hope you find what you're looking for.



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Posted on Fri, Jul 09, 2010 21:49

WE ARE out here . However most ladies gravitate to the , Pretty boys, or the Bad Boys. They over look us because we are not exotic , or make your heart go pitter patter because we called or look like some Dreamy star on the movies.We are the guys who do the right thing and get passed on over because of it. We are the plain vanillia Ice cream when every body has the cravings for the Fancy exotic Gourmet flavors. Some of you have been burned by the promiscuiousness of past partners,or by the disrespect they have performed in the relationship.It can be said one has to shuck a lot of oysters to get a pearl, and a whole lot more to get one that is truely flawless.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 08, 2010 20:59

Quoting rustyapache

It's like the X-files. We ARE out there. I'm probably more OUT THERE than most, but that's a subject for another time. A man that is out for true love should have no problem delaying intimacy until the time is right for both. If he becomes impetuous when things do not progress to his satisfaction, then he is probably just out for a good time. These types should be kept at arms length. Unfortunately, promiscuity among men has become the norm, and the expectation. Even a badge of honour. However there are a few hold-outs in captivity. Sadly too many women reject the few loving men that are out there, because they think we are clingy, or needy. You can't have it both ways! I've been rejected by women who claimed I was too intense for them. So I quickly took my intensity where it was appreciated. She ended up unhappy, in an abusive relationship with a Bad Boy. I think a lot of guys look to BBWs not for love, but to satify a curiosity, or fetish. Some also feel that they can be with you until something better comes along. They may have the impression that you are desperate, and you will accept bad behaviour. Also at your' age, guys are just one big hormone, and they only want one thing. I wasn't ready to settle down until the age of 33. Before that I was quite promiscuous, but I was totally honest in my shallowness. I'm different now. I want to make beautiful memories with just one woman eventually. I good way to judge a man's true character, is to observe how he treats other people that cross his path. If he directs negative behavior at others, they will eventually be directed at you.


I would have to agree. Some women "say" they want good men but when they have one they do not appreciate the person. The same goes for the opposite gender as well. I had an ex who once told me that he felt like he was not worthy of good women. However, childhood circumstances had afflicted him. It is the standard for men to be promiscuious. However, if a woman does the same she is ridiculed. I have yet to find out what the attraction and undying love for a man who is mentally and physically abusive. My thought is that you can do bad all by yourself. You do not need anyone to lower your self-esteem and beat the living day lights out of you. Keep being the kind of guy that you are. Some great woman will cherish you as much as you cherish her. I hate to admit it but men do think this way about bbws. Some are genuinely attracted to us and are not jerks. However, you do find some who fit into the categories that you have previously stated. When I find people like that I run the other way. LOL! That is a good way to judge a man's character. I have also heard to observe how they treat their mothers. That is a good indication of how they will treat you. Thanks for your comment. Very complex issue.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 08, 2010 07:12

It's like the X-files. We ARE out there. I'm probably more OUT THERE than most, but that's a subject for another time. A man that is out for true love should have no problem delaying intimacy until the time is right for both. If he becomes impetuous when things do not progress to his satisfaction, then he is probably just out for a good time. These types should be kept at arms length. Unfortunately, promiscuity among men has become the norm, and the expectation. Even a badge of honour. However there are a few hold-outs in captivity. Sadly too many women reject the few loving men that are out there, because they think we are clingy, or needy. You can't have it both ways! I've been rejected by women who claimed I was too intense for them. So I quickly took my intensity where it was appreciated. She ended up unhappy, in an abusive relationship with a Bad Boy. I think a lot of guys look to BBWs not for love, but to satify a curiosity, or fetish. Some also feel that they can be with you until something better comes along. They may have the impression that you are desperate, and you will accept bad behaviour. Also at your' age, guys are just one big hormone, and they only want one thing. I wasn't ready to settle down until the age of 33. Before that I was quite promiscuous, but I was totally honest in my shallowness. I'm different now. I want to make beautiful memories with just one woman eventually. I good way to judge a man's true character, is to observe how he treats other people that cross his path. If he directs negative behavior at others, they will eventually be directed at you.


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