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hollaatyagurl
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Posted on Fri, Jul 29, 2011 22:17

I am posing a question you guy and gals. Have you ever been in a friends with benefits relationship? How did it begin and how did it end? I find absolutely nothing wrong with this type of arrangement as long as both parties respect one another. Not just with random people but someone who you have a great time with and share the same interests with more than in that type of way. There is nothing wrong with someone who makes you feel alive sharing an intimate time with you. This person would be a great placeholder until that right person comes along. So what are your thoughts about this?


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SPELLBINDER1URY
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Posted on Thu, Sep 13, 2012 09:42

i have been in oneand it startyed to develope in a full relationship and she end it



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Posted on Thu, Apr 05, 2012 13:30

i loved it. she would call, me come over, give me the business, and leave! i felt so used.......damn i miss her


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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2012 10:50

I would love a fwb situation, anyone in the san diego region who is interested just let me know. at my age im just as interested in a part time situation as full time. Fit it in with my golf game, ya know! :)


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Posted on Tue, Mar 06, 2012 11:22

I think it's a recipie for disaster. Someone always catches feelings. I've never had the experience, but I could never see myself in one. It's like being a little pregnant. Either you're an item or you're not.


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Posted on Fri, Mar 02, 2012 18:37

It never really worked for me. I always felt like (and still do), that if I share my body I want to share my heart as well. FWB to me seems too "cold" or even jaded.



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Posted on Thu, Dec 08, 2011 17:46

well it worked for me...it was convient for the moment


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Posted on Sun, Nov 13, 2011 13:32

I have had those type of relationships, They can go both ways. One was good. we knew each other a bit and just really felt attracted to each other. But I looked him in the eyes and stated what I wanted and that is the same thing he wanted, we ended it well and are still friends. I will never go back to sex with him, but it was good while it lasted. Another one I did the same thing and he really wanted to it to last longer. It was not a pretty way to end it. So i stopped doing that. Not that I am some slut, but I was lonely and needed some human contact. I think many people know what I am talking about. Good luck if you go for it!


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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2011 19:48

In theory it can work. I have a friend in such a relationship and it has worked well for some years now. She went through a nasty divorce and didn't/still doesn't want another relationship. She doesn't have sax (don't want to get bleeped) with anyone else, she isn't sure if he does or not but she doesn't care. She talks about him but none of her girls know him. He is a friend of both of her brothers who know nothing about the relationship, otherwise they'd kill him (and we're talking people almost 50...lol). Anyhoo, it works for them. I have tried it a couple of times but I go back and forth with not wanting to have sax again until I find my husband, and wanting a 'friend' to, well, you know, whenever I want him too. I don't want him, he is not a potential mate at all, but he is a decent man and good at what he does...lol. So, I guess my answer from all of this is that FWB doesn't really work if in your heart of hearts you really want a Mr. or Ms. Right to supply the benefits and you are settling for someone you wouldn't ordinarily want.


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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2011 16:31

In theory, it should work... but honestly, in my mind, that's not how women think. We have the curse of craving that one man that really gets us and makes our bodies tingle. There's no way I can be a friend with benefits myself. When I like someone enough to want to spend time with them and have fun, which is a big thing for me because I won't really entertain people that I don't respect or like, there is no black and white, it's all gray.

It's hard for me to think that women like this setup unless they've been heartbroken, but I guess the problem is, what if this person helped you through that, and is still there, being funny, cool, unassuming, fun, sexy, and attracting?! Then it's all too easy to fall. But what happens when they find their "ideal" before you. That's when the big boom drops in. I don't really understand casual sex. Those two words are oxymoronic in my mind, but society today radiates that thinking. So, to each his own I suppose. Just make sure you watch out for the big boom!

 



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Posted on Sun, Aug 14, 2011 08:11

I have had this situation a couple of times. I think in theory it is perfectly fine. The trick is to find the right person. My 2 attempts ended in disaster. 1 I ended up falling for him pretty hard and got my heart trampled on. The 2nd I was treated as a princess at first but he began treating me as his whore. There was no respect and it was all on his terms and timeline. I was just there for when he wanted me. Go for it! Good luck yo you! Just protect yourself emotionally and physically. Make sure you find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve and that it is a give and take for BOTH of you.


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