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guppie4u
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Posted on Tue, Oct 17, 2006 22:41

What is your feeling about wink's as to an E-Mail? Do you prefer one over the other?


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Posted on Sat, Dec 02, 2006 03:36

Hi, me personally, I'd love either and am just dying to have a chat but I'm not a gold member,nor do I have a lot of experience with this site as I've only just found it.Hey anybody who reads this is welcome to email me. thx Polly13


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Posted on Sat, Nov 25, 2006 08:05

I prefer a man that emails me with a way to contact him back . Most are free members and just passing a wink here and there gets you no where fast ! At least if I get an email with a way to contact him I know the interest in me is real.


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Posted on Fri, Nov 10, 2006 14:17

I agree with pumpkin2007. I like the wink first then an email. i like the chat feature the best.


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Posted on Fri, Nov 10, 2006 13:43

I am new to this site so I guess I dont know too much. But I would have to say live chat would definitely be able to get people to know each other better


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Posted on Mon, Nov 06, 2006 11:50

i'd rather emails, you can get to know each other a whole lot better. you can also chat here too, that's good also.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 26, 2006 01:26

I am in the majority here I think. I am choosing to remain only a free member on this site, so even though the winks are a fun way to flirt, an email shows real interest! Also, it allows you to give the lady the option of taking the next step if you include other ways she might contact you. This doesn't mean you should include only a phone #...as some men have done with me. Maybe just an email address or another open service where she might contact you to chat. I know this is what I prefer :o) Great question Tigger!


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Posted on Mon, Oct 23, 2006 20:05

I prefer emails to the winks. I belong to a couple of totally free dating sites and it's really nice to be able to email and even chat live with someone. Even though some winks are cute, I don't really care for them. Unfortunately, I'm a free member on this site so that's all I can send.


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Posted on Sat, Oct 21, 2006 14:49

Prefer an email every time ..... somehow it's more believable! One of the reasons - well, this has happened to me, and I'm aware of a couple of other women who have found the same ..... You are in touch with someone, chatting, perhaps arranging to meet up. Then it goes wrong for whatever reason and you both move on. But, every couple of months you get a wink from him. This could mean they have a very bad memory, or they are taking a scatter gun approach with their winks, or that there is a glich in the system and they are somehow getting sent automatically. It's made me quite wary of winks, but at least with an email it has been a conscious effort. A tip for the guys ... if you send an email it doesn't need to be your life history, but if you try for a bit more that "how are you?" or "You are cute" you are morelikely to get a response and strike up a conversation!


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Posted on Sat, Oct 21, 2006 13:40

I personally like winks first, then if interested you wink back, then the emails, I think it makes it more interesting and less evasive.... but that just my opinion......DEB


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Posted on Sat, Oct 21, 2006 00:34

Given a choice of one or the other-most definately an email-even a short one that just says "hello" shows that a man thinks enough of you to make the small effort of typing something in the box! Not that ust a wink is bad-they do have some decent choices of winks I think on this site. The best for me to receive is a wink with a brief message, followed up with a nice email. It shows me that he found me special enough to take the time and effort to wink and think!


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Posted on Fri, Oct 20, 2006 15:15

I would perfer to see more e-mails anymore. I agree with most of you I think it is more personal and it could say more. I am not a paying member and it seems guys are not stepping it up and e-mailing me....Whenever they wink they usually say the 'around the bush': "I found your profile interesting and would like to hear from you" I am sorry but I would like a guy to be a little more upfront. Just my 2 cents Kissy


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Posted on Wed, Oct 18, 2006 09:32

It seems that the majority of people on this site are nonpaying members so they have no choice but to sent just a wink. I, however, have gotten winks from men who are paying members. If you have the choice between winking and emailing, I think most women would prefer that you send an email letting them know what attracted you to their profile. With women, just a little bit of effort goes a long way.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 18, 2006 08:49

a wink is more generic, an email is more creative and can express more than just a hey I like your profile. It also allows one who is not a member to respond back with more than a generic response. Just my input on the subject.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 18, 2006 08:16

I personally prefer and email. I mean, the winks are ok... I guess they allow you to see who's interested. But, I feel if a man is really interested... He will say, "Hello." It won't be automated, or generated, it will be personal.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 18, 2006 07:15

Well, when I approach someone I may be interested in, it's going to be in a blog or comment. Therefore, I generally ignore winks. If they aren't going to take the time to get to know me by reading up and checking my history here, then they aren't worth my time. E-mails are great if they are from someone I have previously held conversations with. P.S. Bad storm here last night, my computer pooted out with the electricity.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Wed, Oct 18, 2006 06:30

I prefer an email because that tells me that you took the time to think shows real interest with you taking the time to share a bit about yourself and open the door for more communication....nothing is more a turn off then to read comments on someones profile and find that they have winked to 50 ladies at the same time....


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