The five words that I dread when speaking to a woman.
It's not you, it's me.
Those five little words seem so innocent, don't they? Yet they carry such a heavy weight. They inflict such a heavy blow.
It's not you, it's me.
I know they are words used to spare someone's feelings. A way to let them feel better, that they didn't do anything wrong.
It's not you, it's me.
Yes, you were a perfect gentleman. Yes, you are witty, intelligent, and insightful. Yes, you are a wonderful human being.
It's not you, it's me.
What is it about you that doesn't make it about me? If it isn't me, why are you making it about you?
It's not you, it's me.
If those words are suppose to make me feel better, why does it leave such a sting? If those words are true, why am I doubting my own self-worth? If those words are a means of my escape, why do I look at myself in the mirror with an overly critical eye?
Even if it is you and not me, it's still a dismissal. It's still a rejection. And it still hurts.
The five words that I dread when speaking to a woman.
It's not you, it's me.
Those five little words seem so innocent, don't they? Yet they carry such a heavy weight. They inflict such a heavy blow.
It's not you, it's me.
I know they are words used to spare someone's feelings. A way to let them feel better, that they didn't do anything wrong.
It's not you, it's me.
Yes, you were a perfect gentleman. Yes, you are witty, intelligent, and insightful. Yes, you are a wonderful human being.
It's not you, it's me.
What is it about you that doesn't make it about me? If it isn't me, why are you making it about you?
It's not you, it's me.
If those words are suppose to make me feel better, why does it leave such a sting? If those words are true, why am I doubting my own self-worth? If those words are a means of my escape, why do I look at myself in the mirror with an overly critical eye?
Even if it is you and not me, it's still a dismissal. It's still a rejection. And it still hurts.
Just an FYI to everyone; this wasn't a lash out at a rejection (or at least, not a recent rejection). It's just a collection of my past experiences with the "it's not you, it's me" line kinda rolled up into one. It's a reflection that runs through my mind during, and my thoughts as I inevitably replay the scene again and again.
Someone had asked me to post something serious and without humour. This is that said attempt.
Just an FYI to everyone; this wasn't a lash out at a rejection (or at least, not a recent rejection). It's just a collection of my past experiences with the "it's not you, it's me" line kinda rolled up into one. It's a reflection that runs through my mind during, and my thoughts as I inevitably replay the scene again and again.
Someone had asked me to post something serious and without humour. This is that said attempt.
Hmmm this is really food for thought. I have met men and have thought that they are witty, charming, have all the characteristics of a good partner but there was something missing. I never thought of it as being "them". I always thought that it was MY chemistry that didn't match with theirs...thus the "it's not you, it's me". I never realized that someone would take it personal or that it would hurt their feelings.
Hmmm this is really food for thought. I have met men and have thought that they are witty, charming, have all the characteristics of a good partner but there was something missing. I never thought of it as being "them". I always thought that it was MY chemistry that didn't match with theirs...thus the "it's not you, it's me". I never realized that someone would take it personal or that it would hurt their feelings.
'puttin on my big gyrll panties and getting over it
Even if it's done to dump someone while not hurting their feeling, it's still a lie... a diplomatic one.¿ So you should'nt doubt yourself because of a lie. ¿ What does "it's me" means? I don't like myself, don't turn myself on, I wouldn't date myself. It's ridiculous. Of course it's you. It's lack of chemisty, it's about not feeling an attraction, it's about not having the right color of eyes, hair, or the type of vibes he/she will appreciate. It's about something you do or don't do for him/her. ¿ At the same time, it's perfectly ok. Rejection is not always bad. It took me a while but now I get it and it allows me to receive rejection without being destroyed by it and it also taught me how to reject without hurting someone. My policy¿is still¿honesty. I will tell someone or would want to hear something like... It's not about you nor me, it's about us. We just don't click, connect or bond... It doesn't mean either of us has anything to change. It just mean we weren't made for one another.
Even if it's done to dump someone while not hurting their feeling, it's still a lie... a diplomatic one.¿ So you should'nt doubt yourself because of a lie. ¿ What does "it's me" means? I don't like myself, don't turn myself on, I wouldn't date myself. It's ridiculous. Of course it's you. It's lack of chemisty, it's about not feeling an attraction, it's about not having the right color of eyes, hair, or the type of vibes he/she will appreciate. It's about something you do or don't do for him/her. ¿ At the same time, it's perfectly ok. Rejection is not always bad. It took me a while but now I get it and it allows me to receive rejection without being destroyed by it and it also taught me how to reject without hurting someone. My policy¿is still¿honesty. I will tell someone or would want to hear something like... It's not about you nor me, it's about us. We just don't click, connect or bond... It doesn't mean either of us has anything to change. It just mean we weren't made for one another.
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