Well kids, it's that time of year again. No, I'm not talking about seeing Santa, but enjoying dinner with your family. If yours in anything like mine you might be dreading it too.
I have on great uncle in particular who lives to give me the 3rd degree about my love life everytime I see him and it doesn't matter if I have a boyfriend or not he still asks me the same question year after year since I was...oh...16, I guess. He always wants to know this..."Why aren't you married?" And every year I say the same thing..."I don't want to be miserable." This year thought, I'm thinking of trying something different out on him. Something like, "Because my girlfriend keeps telling me no when I ask her to marry me, Uncle James!" Now, I'm not gay or even bi so don't get the wrong idea, but I wanted to say something to him that would shut him up once and for all, but I'm afraid that if I say that he will take me seriously which will no doubt open up a whole new can of worms for me. Any ideas on what I can say to this old fart to shut him up permanently?
Well kids, it's that time of year again. No, I'm not talking about seeing Santa, but enjoying dinner with your family. If yours in anything like mine you might be dreading it too.
I have on great uncle in particular who lives to give me the 3rd degree about my love life everytime I see him and it doesn't matter if I have a boyfriend or not he still asks me the same question year after year since I was...oh...16, I guess. He always wants to know this..."Why aren't you married?" And every year I say the same thing..."I don't want to be miserable." This year thought, I'm thinking of trying something different out on him. Something like, "Because my girlfriend keeps telling me no when I ask her to marry me, Uncle James!" Now, I'm not gay or even bi so don't get the wrong idea, but I wanted to say something to him that would shut him up once and for all, but I'm afraid that if I say that he will take me seriously which will no doubt open up a whole new can of worms for me. Any ideas on what I can say to this old fart to shut him up permanently?
I go with Islandgal on that one... placate him with a barrage of question. If he's married, ask him how his sex life is, why his wife is not smiling more...
Or you could always answer... so that you can keep tradition and ask the same question again next year.
Actually, I'm very lucky. I have 12 uncles, 12 aunts, cousins coming out of my ears and that's only on my mom's side and they are all adament... My ants tell me I've got it made and that I have a great life, my uncles tell me to not settle and ask me if any boyfriend is giving me any problems... and then the cousins are saying... I'm single too... so it's all good.
I do have a great life... I'm fulfill professionnally as well as personnally... great friends, family and acquaintances. But I'm single... I wish to have someone in my life but the older I get the harder it is, men are not as available and most of the one I talk to are looking for a sexual relationship and want to know as little about me as possible.
I go with Islandgal on that one... placate him with a barrage of question. If he's married, ask him how his sex life is, why his wife is not smiling more...
Or you could always answer... so that you can keep tradition and ask the same question again next year.
Actually, I'm very lucky. I have 12 uncles, 12 aunts, cousins coming out of my ears and that's only on my mom's side and they are all adament... My ants tell me I've got it made and that I have a great life, my uncles tell me to not settle and ask me if any boyfriend is giving me any problems... and then the cousins are saying... I'm single too... so it's all good.
I do have a great life... I'm fulfill professionnally as well as personnally... great friends, family and acquaintances. But I'm single... I wish to have someone in my life but the older I get the harder it is, men are not as available and most of the one I talk to are looking for a sexual relationship and want to know as little about me as possible.
Maybe the best way of dealing with that is to throw it back at him and start asking HIM lots of questions....
"That's sweet of you to ask uncle, why is it you are so concerned about my marital status"
"What is it about being married that you think is so important for me"
"How is/was your marriage for your wife?" (assuming it's not an insensitive time to be asking such questions!)
"That's an interesting question uncle ..... there are lots of people here in the 21st century for whom marriage is not their biggest ambition - why do you suppose that is?"
Bamboozle him with lots of quick fire questions and he'll have no idea what he asked you in the first place!
Maybe the best way of dealing with that is to throw it back at him and start asking HIM lots of questions....
"That's sweet of you to ask uncle, why is it you are so concerned about my marital status"
"What is it about being married that you think is so important for me"
"How is/was your marriage for your wife?" (assuming it's not an insensitive time to be asking such questions!)
"That's an interesting question uncle ..... there are lots of people here in the 21st century for whom marriage is not their biggest ambition - why do you suppose that is?"
Bamboozle him with lots of quick fire questions and he'll have no idea what he asked you in the first place!
HI, I think that Blue has a point. I would ask him why he wants you to be married. Find out from him directly. Then there are many things you can tell him.
My take is similar to Blue's he's a part of your family and he cares enough to be interested in your life. There are so many that have relatives that just don't care enough to ask.
You can joke and tell him that it's not legal to marry unlces.... You're looking for a guy like him, one that takes a genuine interest in you.
Always stick with the truth !!!
Nat
HI, I think that Blue has a point. I would ask him why he wants you to be married. Find out from him directly. Then there are many things you can tell him.
My take is similar to Blue's he's a part of your family and he cares enough to be interested in your life. There are so many that have relatives that just don't care enough to ask.
You can joke and tell him that it's not legal to marry unlces.... You're looking for a guy like him, one that takes a genuine interest in you.
Wow. I guess I have quite a different take on this situation. I'm thinking that rather than being nosy, your uncle is trying to say he thinks you are a great catch and he's surprised no one has snapped you up yet.
So my response for an answer that isn't really an answer at all, but will make him very happy would be to respond by saying "because I've never found anyone quite like you."
Won't shut him up forever, but will keep family relationships smooth and gets you out of having to come up with real reasons.
Quoting: Originally posted by flurting4fun2 Well kids, it's that time of year again. No, I'm not talking about seeing Santa, but enjoying dinner with your family. If yours in anything like mine you might be dreading it too.
I have on great uncle in particular who lives to give me the 3rd degree about my love life everytime I see him and it doesn't matter if I have a boyfriend or not he still asks me the same question year after year since I was...oh...16, I guess. He always wants to know this..."Why aren't you married?" And every year I say the same thing..."I don't want to be miserable." This year thought, I'm thinking of trying something different out on him. Something like, "Because my girlfriend keeps telling me no when I ask her to marry me, Uncle James!" Now, I'm not gay or even bi so don't get the wrong idea, but I wanted to say something to him that would shut him up once and for all, but I'm afraid that if I say that he will take me seriously which will no doubt open up a whole new can of worms for me. Any ideas on what I can say to this old fart to shut him up permanently?
Wow. I guess I have quite a different take on this situation. I'm thinking that rather than being nosy, your uncle is trying to say he thinks you are a great catch and he's surprised no one has snapped you up yet.
So my response for an answer that isn't really an answer at all, but will make him very happy would be to respond by saying "because I've never found anyone quite like you."
Won't shut him up forever, but will keep family relationships smooth and gets you out of having to come up with real reasons.
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Quoting: Originally posted by flurting4fun2 Well kids, it's that time of year again. No, I'm not talking about seeing Santa, but enjoying dinner with your family. If yours in anything like mine you might be dreading it too.
I have on great uncle in particular who lives to give me the 3rd degree about my love life everytime I see him and it doesn't matter if I have a boyfriend or not he still asks me the same question year after year since I was...oh...16, I guess. He always wants to know this..."Why aren't you married?" And every year I say the same thing..."I don't want to be miserable." This year thought, I'm thinking of trying something different out on him. Something like, "Because my girlfriend keeps telling me no when I ask her to marry me, Uncle James!" Now, I'm not gay or even bi so don't get the wrong idea, but I wanted to say something to him that would shut him up once and for all, but I'm afraid that if I say that he will take me seriously which will no doubt open up a whole new can of worms for me. Any ideas on what I can say to this old fart to shut him up permanently?
Hi Flirtyfor fun, well I have been thinking about how to answer this and I do have to admit that my first response was something like you suggested. I am not sure what you could say that will stop the tongues wagging, so why not make it memorable then? :) The other way is to say something about your Uncle, but not knowing enough about him it is hard to suggest something. Family and friends can be trying at times, and though they mean well, can be hurtful sometimes too. You could try and throw him off by asking him all the questions and putting him on the spot a bit. Good luck I do hope that you work out how to get out of it and have a great Xmas.
Hi Flirtyfor fun, well I have been thinking about how to answer this and I do have to admit that my first response was something like you suggested. I am not sure what you could say that will stop the tongues wagging, so why not make it memorable then? :) The other way is to say something about your Uncle, but not knowing enough about him it is hard to suggest something. Family and friends can be trying at times, and though they mean well, can be hurtful sometimes too. You could try and throw him off by asking him all the questions and putting him on the spot a bit. Good luck I do hope that you work out how to get out of it and have a great Xmas.
If he asks you Just tell him ... Uncle James Because of nunyah. When when he looks at you very puzzled. Tell him It is none of your business!Then walk away and ignore him.
If he asks you Just tell him ... Uncle James Because of nunyah. When when he looks at you very puzzled. Tell him It is none of your business!Then walk away and ignore him.
Well, it's not a "permanent" fix, like you asked for. I don't think that will happen, unless "death" is on the table. But, you can always say something TRUE that can't really be argued, such as: "When I'm ready to, I will!"
Good luck and Merry Christmas! -- True
Well, it's not a "permanent" fix, like you asked for. I don't think that will happen, unless "death" is on the table. But, you can always say something TRUE that can't really be argued, such as: "When I'm ready to, I will!"
