I have noticed that finding someone to chat with has been a problem. I have been a paying member for quite some time. I check often and browse thru the pool of people looking for friends, mates etc... and almost always it ends with no success in an actual connection. I didn't think I was all that unattractive. I am in many ways smart and very open minded. Do I have to advertise myself in a different fashion for soemone to actually say hello? Is it true that men are just shy and have issues approaching a woman? Someone give me a tip.