So I'm at a point in my life where I'm looking back at my sex life and wondering if this is a good as it gets. I feel so grey and cotton undies, when there is vibrancy and an sexy lingerie smoldering inside. But how to get it out? I'd like to experiment more, try different ways to express my sexual self, but am not willing to return to my youth of unfulfilling (not to mention unsafe) one night stands.Yet who knows when the next potentially semi-serious relationship will come along, providing a safe place to play. Self pleasure can only go so far.
So I'm at a point in my life where I'm looking back at my sex life and wondering if this is a good as it gets. I feel so grey and cotton undies, when there is vibrancy and an sexy lingerie smoldering inside. But how to get it out? I'd like to experiment more, try different ways to express my sexual self, but am not willing to return to my youth of unfulfilling (not to mention unsafe) one night stands.Yet who knows when the next potentially semi-serious relationship will come along, providing a safe place to play. Self pleasure can only go so far.
You are a beautiful woman with kind warm eyes and you should start off every day knowing how sexy you can be as a woman. This knowledge gives power!!!
I used to be much thinner when I was married to my ex, he used to make fun of me because of my weight and I let him lower my self esteem. Then one day I looked at myself and analyzed my life. I didn't know who the person looking back at me was!! That day I made a commitment to myself, each day I was going look in the mirror and tell myself how beautiful I was!! I felt sort of ridiculous when I started but then I got the hang of it and even got to the point of blowing kisses to myself!! I became the beautiful, sexy, vibrant confident women that I always was. I set aside all the humiliation I had received from my ex. (and soon after set him aside too!!!) I started dressing differently, I let my hair grow I started being me!! It was a process and thank God I found a man that can't resist me (that helps boost the self-esteem LOL) and now I don't care what others think. I know who I am and with this knowledge I feel SEXY!!!!
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You are a beautiful woman with kind warm eyes and you should start off every day knowing how sexy you can be as a woman. This knowledge gives power!!!
I used to be much thinner when I was married to my ex, he used to make fun of me because of my weight and I let him lower my self esteem. Then one day I looked at myself and analyzed my life. I didn't know who the person looking back at me was!! That day I made a commitment to myself, each day I was going look in the mirror and tell myself how beautiful I was!! I felt sort of ridiculous when I started but then I got the hang of it and even got to the point of blowing kisses to myself!! I became the beautiful, sexy, vibrant confident women that I always was.
I set aside all the humiliation I had received from my ex. (and soon after set him aside too!!!)
I started dressing differently, I let my hair grow I started being me!!
It was a process and thank God I found a man that can't resist me (that helps boost the self-esteem LOL) and now I don't care what others think. I know who I am and with this knowledge I feel SEXY!!!!
I agree with the other girls. Do whatever makes you feel good - flirt, chat , dance, wear high heels or tight jeans and a low cut shirt with your fave lingerie. Do what makes you feel confident and look and enjoy some attention while you search for a play partner or a long term partner. Get out and get seen and indulge in yourself whether it be self pleasure or pleasuring oneself.
I agree with the other girls. Do whatever makes you feel good - flirt, chat , dance, wear high heels or tight jeans and a low cut shirt with your fave lingerie.
Do what makes you feel confident and look and enjoy some attention while you search for a play partner or a long term partner. Get out and get seen and indulge in yourself whether it be self pleasure or pleasuring oneself.
Quoting: Originally posted by Russell32 All those ideas are fine for the ladies that are content with being self-assured that they can do this on thier own because of past relationships and the way men did them, but the sure way (I think)is to get with a guy that wants the same things out of a relationship as you do and keep him involved with what you want to experiment with and try new things to keep it fresh..
I don't dress any particular way because of past relationships or the way some man "did" me. I dress however I wish because I like it and it suits me.
While I agree that engaging in a relationship is about mutual interests, enjoying one's self is wholly that, enjoyment.
Quoting Russell32:
All those ideas are fine for the ladies that are content with being self-assured that they can do this on thier own because of past relationships and the way men did them, but the sure way (I think)is to get with a guy that wants the same things out of a relationship as you do and keep him involved with what you want to experiment with and try new things to keep it fresh..
I don't dress any particular way because of past relationships or the way some man "did" me. I dress however I wish because I like it and it suits me.
While I agree that engaging in a relationship is about mutual interests, enjoying one's self is wholly that, enjoyment.
When I go out, even if I'm not sure if I'm going to score or not....I like to have on my colorful matching bra and panties. Of course, they are stylist, usually lacy or silk. Then I make sure the top is one that has a V-Cut front line, this way the guy can see a little skin. I enjoy catching them staring at my chest and pretending not too.
When I go out, even if I'm not sure if I'm going to score or not....I like to have on my colorful matching bra and panties. Of course, they are stylist, usually lacy or silk. Then I make sure the top is one that has a V-Cut front line, this way the guy can see a little skin. I enjoy catching them staring at my chest and pretending not too.
Quoting: Originally posted by Russell32 All those ideas are fine for the ladies that are content with being self-assured that they can do this on thier own because of past relationships and the way men did them, but the sure way (I think)is to get with a guy that wants the same things out of a relationship as you do and keep him involved with what you want to experiment with and try new things to keep it fresh..
I wholeheartedly agree with Russell32 here.
So many men have sexual fantasies ans interests that they have learned to hide because they are taboo, or they were told were shameful or perverted. However, as a society times have changed and sexuality has become a very palletable and acceptable mainstream part of our public lives, not only a sentiment to enjoy in our private lives.
So, with that I do agreee that a good woman would reach out to her man and express interest in his interests, turn on's and fantasies. Go get erotic films and magazines together ! Go pick out costumes and lingere that you would like to see one another in and play, laugh and love without limitations! In turn, I think this will result in people finding the satisfaction they desire at home and will not have to be dishonest about what they truly need to maintain interest.
Quoting Russell32:
All those ideas are fine for the ladies that are content with being self-assured that they can do this on thier own because of past relationships and the way men did them, but the sure way (I think)is to get with a guy that wants the same things out of a relationship as you do and keep him involved with what you want to experiment with and try new things to keep it fresh..
I wholeheartedly agree with Russell32 here.
So many men have sexual fantasies ans interests that they have learned to hide because they are taboo, or they were told were shameful or perverted. However, as a society times have changed and sexuality has become a very palletable and acceptable mainstream part of our public lives, not only a sentiment to enjoy in our private lives.
So, with that I do agreee that a good woman would reach out to her man and express interest in his interests, turn on's and fantasies. Go get erotic films and magazines together ! Go pick out costumes and lingere that you would like to see one another in and play, laugh and love without limitations! In turn, I think this will result in people finding the satisfaction they desire at home and will not have to be dishonest about what they truly need to maintain interest.
I'm in the same boat, curvy. Don't quite know when I'll see land again, but I've got my binoculars out...lol! Also, I agree with one2one, I'm gonna sit right beside her...(this oughta' get interesting...)--True
I'm in the same boat, curvy. Don't quite know when I'll see land again, but I've got my binoculars out...lol! Also, I agree with one2one, I'm gonna sit right beside her...(this oughta' get interesting...)--True
Quoting: Originally posted by VegasAngel76 2 words..HIGH HEELS.
There is something about the transformation that takes place in me once I slip on some nasty heels...Then if you put on some sexy underwear and a short skirt and go to the store and out of the corner of your eye - watch all the eyes on you. Undressing you with their eyes. Them imagining those nice legs and sexy heels over their shoulder !
P.S - To keep with this theme and incorporate your other blog about looking for good music...check this out -
Johnny Gill - My, My My :)
*grin* don't forget a decadent perfume!!
Quoting VegasAngel76:
2 words..HIGH HEELS.
There is something about the transformation that takes place in me once I slip on some nasty heels...Then if you put on some sexy underwear and a short skirt and go to the store and out of the corner of your eye - watch all the eyes on you. Undressing you with their eyes. Them imagining those nice legs and sexy heels over their shoulder !
P.S - To keep with this theme and incorporate your other blog about looking for good music...check this out -
All those ideas are fine for the ladies that are content with being self-assured that they can do this on thier own because of past relationships and the way men did them, but the sure way (I think)is to get with a guy that wants the same things out of a relationship as you do and keep him involved with what you want to experiment with and try new things to keep it fresh..
All those ideas are fine for the ladies that are content with being self-assured that they can do this on thier own because of past relationships and the way men did them, but the sure way (I think)is to get with a guy that wants the same things out of a relationship as you do and keep him involved with what you want to experiment with and try new things to keep it fresh..
There is something about the transformation that takes place in me once I slip on some nasty heels...Then if you put on some sexy underwear and a short skirt and go to the store and out of the corner of your eye - watch all the eyes on you. Undressing you with their eyes. Them imagining those nice legs and sexy heels over their shoulder !
P.S - To keep with this theme and incorporate your other blog about looking for good music...check this out -
Johnny Gill - My, My My :)
2 words..HIGH HEELS.
There is something about the transformation that takes place in me once I slip on some nasty heels...Then if you put on some sexy underwear and a short skirt and go to the store and out of the corner of your eye - watch all the eyes on you. Undressing you with their eyes. Them imagining those nice legs and sexy heels over their shoulder !
P.S - To keep with this theme and incorporate your other blog about looking for good music...check this out -
I just thought of something else. Getting a make over, make up and hair is amazing for ones ego boosting. I want to do that one day, but I want to have a photo of different stages so I can try to replicate it.
Go to the store and experiment, I love doing that too.
I just thought of something else. Getting a make over, make up and hair is amazing for ones ego boosting. I want to do that one day, but I want to have a photo of different stages so I can try to replicate it.
Go to the store and experiment, I love doing that too.
Do you live in an area that offers tantric sex classes? Or other types of sexual exploration/learning/etc.? Although they aren't the same as having a partner, they can be great for learning new things about your own sexuality and others. Also, sexy underwear/clothing is fun or finding new ways, places or toys can add interest to self enjoyment.
Do you live in an area that offers tantric sex classes? Or other types of sexual exploration/learning/etc.? Although they aren't the same as having a partner, they can be great for learning new things about your own sexuality and others. Also, sexy underwear/clothing is fun or finding new ways, places or toys can add interest to self enjoyment.
Why not start with the sexy undies, after all sexual is an attitude and if your wearing sex stuff you "try on" the attitude. You never know who will respond to your net attitude, right?
Every time I want to make a change, I "try it on" to see how is "fits". I buy clothes that might not be what I used to for a new look. I change my make up, my hair style. Then I walk in the mall to see what sort of reaction I might get. Don't expect anyone to run over to you, but sometimes more than a casual glance is a great start.
Then I also take pictures of my variety of looks. Then look back to see how I think I looked in certain outfits. Mix and match. I do the same with hairstyles and make up. Pictures are great "mirrors" for me.
Hope this helps.
Aimee
Why not start with the sexy undies, after all sexual is an attitude and if your wearing sex stuff you "try on" the attitude. You never know who will respond to your net attitude, right?
Every time I want to make a change, I "try it on" to see how is "fits". I buy clothes that might not be what I used to for a new look. I change my make up, my hair style. Then I walk in the mall to see what sort of reaction I might get. Don't expect anyone to run over to you, but sometimes more than a casual glance is a great start.
Then I also take pictures of my variety of looks. Then look back to see how I think I looked in certain outfits. Mix and match. I do the same with hairstyles and make up. Pictures are great "mirrors" for me.
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