Quoting chidiva1979:

I hate when you start dating someone and they dont tell you enough about themselves and later you find out that NO they dont have a car to come see you 50 miles away that you have to go and see them 4 times a week! I also hate when they tell you they are working and have goals in their lives but you find out that they sit around and collect unemployment and dont want to get a job suddenly because they dont trust you enough to go to work so you can have your night out with the girls! Thanks for listening!

I hate when you start dating someone and they dont tell you enough about themselves and later you find out that NO they dont have a car to come see you 50 miles away that you have to go and see them 4 times a week! I also hate when they tell you they are working and have goals in their lives but you find out that they sit around and collect unemployment and dont want to get a job suddenly because they dont trust you enough to go to work so you can have your night out with the girls! Thanks for listening!

Quoting jjiggl:

chidiva1979, I know how you feel. I wasted a lot of time with a guy before I knew that he wasn't even employed. Worse yet, he was on disability for mental problems. What's funny is that before I found out about his situation, things were ok. We didn't do much going out--a couple of movies, a romantic picnic, a holiday over his relatives house--but I did enjoy our time together. He would often have me over for dinner, watching dvd's, and just talking and getting to know one another. He was a great cook and I enjoyed his company very much. I accepted him as he was because it seemed that he was managing his life quite well. I even told him so. I don't know what happened but he seemed to change overnight. He used his disability as an excuse when he was distant, when he forgot that we were supposed to spend time together, when he needed groceries, etc. I guess that once the cat was out of the bag, he felt that he could be "himself". He should have gone to Hollywood, because before he told me about his condition, he sure acted like the perfect man!

Before that relationship, I never bothered asking if someone was employed, if they were on meds or anything like that. I never thought that I needed to because I thought that that kind of information would be volunteered. Of course, I know better now.

chidiva1979, I know how you feel. I wasted a lot of time with a guy before I knew that he wasn't even employed. Worse yet, he was on disability for mental problems. What's funny is that before I found out about his situation, things were ok. We didn't do much going out--a couple of movies, a romantic picnic, a holiday over his relatives house--but I did enjoy our time together. He would often have me over for dinner, watching dvd's, and just talking and getting to know one another. He was a great cook and I enjoyed his company very much. I accepted him as he was because it seemed that he was managing his life quite well. I even told him so. I don't know what happened but he seemed to change overnight. He used his disability as an excuse when he was distant, when he forgot that we were supposed to spend time together, when he needed groceries, etc. I guess that once the cat was out of the bag, he felt that he could be "himself". He should have gone to Hollywood, because before he told me about his condition, he sure acted like the perfect man!

Before that relationship, I never bothered asking if someone was employed, if they were on meds or anything like that. I never thought that I needed to because I thought that that kind of information would be volunteered. Of course, I know better now.

Quoting iriemon:

I heard once that the person you meet on the first few dates is that person's PR manager you don't meet the real person until way into the relationship then shi*t start to come out and it's always some foul stuff. You must also know beautiful people attract some real garbage because garbage are looking for a trophy to make them feel better about themselves. good successful guys are out there it's just messed up we've been branded chubby chasers.

I heard once that the person you meet on the first few dates is that person's PR manager you don't meet the real person until way into the relationship then shi*t start to come out and it's always some foul stuff. You must also know beautiful people attract some real garbage because garbage are looking for a trophy to make them feel better about themselves. good successful guys are out there it's just messed up we've been branded chubby chasers.