It's hard to know what you want to do with yourself with you're actually in a relationship. It's different from what you say you want to be/want to do or have some sort of PRIDE; but all you want to do is keep your significant other happy.
You try your best to keep them happy, you sacrifice a lot just to be with them and to work out this complex relationship and at the end, you feel like you're not getting anything back.
Sorry, I just had to vent.
It's hard to know what you want to do with yourself with you're actually in a relationship. It's different from what you say you want to be/want to do or have some sort of PRIDE; but all you want to do is keep your significant other happy.
You try your best to keep them happy, you sacrifice a lot just to be with them and to work out this complex relationship and at the end, you feel like you're not getting anything back.
That's right, Caughtoffguard. Vent, vent and vent again. That was always my pet peeve when dealing with men in the past. I wonder how in the world these kind of men (and women) came to think that a relationship with them means misery for the other person! And I find it appauling that the partners that these self-centered, ungrateful idiots always seem to find caring, loving, sweet people to partner up with!! Drives me crazy!!
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That's right, Caughtoffguard. Vent, vent and vent again. That was always my pet peeve when dealing with men in the past. I wonder how in the world these kind of men (and women) came to think that a relationship with them means misery for the other person! And I find it appauling that the partners that these self-centered, ungrateful idiots always seem to find caring, loving, sweet people to partner up with!! Drives me crazy!!
I've seen this played out time after time... If someone is unhappy, you're not his entertainment committee. It's his job to learn how to be happy, and he should be sharing that with you.
When someone looks to someone else to make them happy, I have to call a spade a spade. They're users.
You're beautiful and you can do better.
Don't be afraid of being alone. I love it. It took a while, but I do. Only alone can you really come into your own... and know exactly what you bring to a relationship.
Don't be a doormat. You're far too pretty and kindhearted to have someone wipe their boots on you.
I've seen this played out time after time... If someone is unhappy, you're not his entertainment committee. It's his job to learn how to be happy, and he should be sharing that with you.
When someone looks to someone else to make them happy, I have to call a spade a spade. They're users.
You're beautiful and you can do better.
Don't be afraid of being alone. I love it. It took a while, but I do. Only alone can you really come into your own... and know exactly what you bring to a relationship.
Don't be a doormat. You're far too pretty and kindhearted to have someone wipe their boots on you.
Yours in Christ,
Lambchop
"For we are His workmanship, , created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them" -- Ephesians 2:10
At my age my long term memory is far better than it's shorter cousin. As a teenager I shared your confusion, but experience has taught me that ultimately you are not responsible for your partner's happiness. It is one thing to be concerned about your partner's well being and sensitive to his needs, but it is quite another to dedicate yourself to making him happy at your own expense. He has to pull his own weight in spreading the good cheer.
You are an attractive young woman with a good heart. You can find a more suitable partner who shares your attentiveness. There will always be people who feel that they are entitled to be worshipped and never give those who are devoted to them a second thought. Let them fend for themselves. You are seeking a relationship, not selfless servitude.
At my age my long term memory is far better than it's shorter cousin. As a teenager I shared your confusion, but experience has taught me that ultimately you are not responsible for your partner's happiness. It is one thing to be concerned about your partner's well being and sensitive to his needs, but it is quite another to dedicate yourself to making him happy at your own expense. He has to pull his own weight in spreading the good cheer.
You are an attractive young woman with a good heart. You can find a more suitable partner who shares your attentiveness. There will always be people who feel that they are entitled to be worshipped and never give those who are devoted to them a second thought. Let them fend for themselves. You are seeking a relationship, not selfless servitude.
Well, It shouldn't be a job to keep your significant other happy. Just your presense should be enough. And if they can't be satisfied just being with you.. then there is most likely something missing in their life. Don't take it personally. And, why take away from what makes you happy so that your partner is? doesn't make any sense to me.
Well, It shouldn't be a job to keep your significant other happy. Just your presense should be enough. And if they can't be satisfied just being with you.. then there is most likely something missing in their life. Don't take it personally. And, why take away from what makes you happy so that your partner is? doesn't make any sense to me.
Yep, quietnlonely, I too have been there done that and with the same results. Now I am concidering jumping into a new relationship. I hope this one will not be that hard, this lady seems normal but so did the other one, till she got the ring at least. Good luck to all that read this.---Tom
Yep, quietnlonely, I too have been there done that and with the same results. Now I am concidering jumping into a new relationship. I hope this one will not be that hard, this lady seems normal but so did the other one, till she got the ring at least. Good luck to all that read this.---Tom
