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Posted on Jun 07, 2006 at 09:00 PM

I was attracted to BBW's since High School. But I would never admit it back then and take the razzing. The I joined the Marine Corps and with the self confidence I developed there I stopped worrying about what other people might think. I did what made me happy and found myself soon married to a BBW. And then I discovered something else...a lot of Marines dated or were married to BBW's. My theory is that with self confidence these Marines as well went with what they liked, the women they truly found attractive. Which leads to my other conclusion: that a lot more men then will ever admit it love the BBW's. One ironic note. After 20 years my marriage ended. For many years things had not been right...my ex finally admitted that she was no longer attracted to me after I put on weight after getting out of the Marine Corps. Oh well...go figue.

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Posted on Jun 06, 2006 at 02:49 PM

Anyone who is "ashamed" or whatever to be seen in the company of someone else just because they are big, little, black, white, tall, short, etc... has a real problem. And the person whom they are attempting to secret from family, friends, and etc... is only facilitating the behavior by tolerating it. No person should be so lonely that they tolerate that kind of behavior. If someone feels that they need to lie about you to others then what else are they lying about? I'm not saying that everyone should be paranoid about others; rather we should simply use common sense and listen to that little voice inside of ourselves.

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Posted on Jun 06, 2006 at 11:31 AM

I was married for over 13 years to a man that would constantly tell me he was embarrassed to be seen with me. As a BBW, I take pride in my appearance, I may be fat but I always have cute clothes and makeup and I have a great smile. If these men aren't MAN enough to stand up to their friends and family and say - I DON'T care what you think, I love her NO MATTER what she weighs, then they are NOT worth being in my life. My ex had a lot of other issues . I know I am in dream land, but I believe I will find a man that will love me no matter what and will proudly introduce me to his friends and family - I KNOW it WILL happen one day. :0-)

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Posted on Jun 05, 2006 at 04:59 PM

I'll be honest. all my life i've had skinny GF and i cheated on her with a BBW, but i would never take the bbw to my mother's house what would she say. Women don't understand the pressure that men have to go through, since everything you do is a reflexion of your sucess in life. The Car, The House, The woman, The smart kids. I love BBW's They're hotter than the skinny girls in everyway, and now i don't care what anyone say.

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Posted on Jun 05, 2006 at 01:33 PM

Having dated BBW(s) historically, and interacially at times, I have found that our experience was only prevalent when we came across small minded people (excuse the pun). We would laugh at it, but on occasion I would sense discomfort in my date/partner. I made it my duty to always (inside and out) reaffirm my interest and affection for a sincerely beautiful woman who happens to be able to protect her "beauty on the inside" with the most exquisite and protective padded wrapping all over the outside. I saw a t shirt I once gave as a gift it said "I'm not fat, I'm Fluffy". It works well in public, I mean, Who doesn't like Fluffy????

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Posted on Jun 05, 2006 at 04:29 AM

I think some guys are reluctant to be seen in public with the sexy BBW, who THEY, obviously, are very attracted to, because they get in by the cultural propaganda that thin is in, so they worry about what others might think. I am very confident that, despite the endless rain of weight loss commercials unleashed upon us, men really do prefer voluptuous curves. Therefore, I get a lot of enjoyment by being seen in public with a hot, curvy BBW on my arm

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Posted on Jun 04, 2006 at 06:34 PM

Hi all, I am new to the site, but I wanted to add my 2 cents. I dated a guy in college and I helped him talk about his problems and I always there for him and we were intimate, but he had a thinner girlfriend back home that he only told me about by accident! When I asked him why he wasn't just able to date me he said "cause of society"!

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Posted on Jun 04, 2006 at 12:35 AM

If you are with someone then looks and what they look like are the least important thing.I feel that just being with that person outside inside or upside down should be irrelevant. I think its just a complex when people are in a relationship and one or the other feels they are neglected and the one they're with won't go in public with them. Thats when you take control and just go, and if he or she pitches a fit then dumpum. cause thats wrong on all levels.

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Posted on Jun 03, 2006 at 03:36 PM

Have to agree with you there, it seems to me that half of the men who want a bbw" are mostly after a fantasy and not a long term relationship! Been there and done that, I hope my radar is now set to detect such folks but always the odd one that slips through! All of the ladies here are pretty (smiles!) Hope that all of us meet our prince charming!

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Posted on Jun 02, 2006 at 06:25 PM

Very good question callysplace. In my oppinion the men that like BBW and don't want to be seen in public with them,are what I call "In the closet" haha, so what they need to do is realize how much of a good thing they have before they lose and end up with some shallow person who just might give them a taste of their own medicine. ((HUGS TO ALL BBW AND ADMIRERS!!!!))

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Posted on Jun 02, 2006 at 01:35 AM

Great question! I feel like someone who "really likes BBW" will not care.. But if they are just "using " you or taking advantage then.. no they feel uncomfortable. thats the way i see it.again... great question. You are very pretty by the way*smiles*

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Posted on Jun 01, 2006 at 11:27 PM

For myself if I am with someone I want everyone to know. If I like her enough to be with her then I like her enough for everyone else to see who I am with. I have been with "skinny" girls and "women of substance" and it didn't matter to me- when we went out we went out... and usally got in a lot of trouble ;-)

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Posted on Jun 01, 2006 at 08:04 PM

OMG I think we as BBW, Plus size...whatever really need to take a look at the couples arround us. I see lots and lots of couples where the woman is heavy or the man or both. Then perhaps it's because I'm from the U.S. and 2/3 of the population are considered overweight. On a more personal note...the last guy I dated was not ashamed to be seen with me. In fact I got a lot of razzing from co-workers because he was kissing me goodbye in the parking lot and they saw it.

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Posted on Jun 01, 2006 at 06:24 PM

Great question Callysplace. I have been in a relationship where things are great at home but when it's time to go out on the town he just " feels like staying home tonight". but when his friends call he's out the door in a flash. When we were finally over i asked him why and that i wanted the gods honest truth. His explanation: you are a great person and i loved being around you and i loved everything about you, you being a large woman is so sexy to me, BUT i didn't want my friends and co-workers thinking i was so desperate that i could only find a big woman"..... It has taken me a while to get back to seeing myself the way i used to( a large woman who is secure with herself and confident in who she is). But God bless all those men who are secure enough with themselves to enjoy us Big woman. And the women who are secure enough to enjoy the company of a Big man.{{{{ HUGS }}}}

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