What's you comfort range?
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04/19/09
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A recent wink from someone got me to?pondering what is my comfort range.As some of you know I am? in my late 40's (46 to be exact) .Well the other day I received a wink from a young lady? who who was barely 19.Hey, I have a daughter two years older than that.I've got clothes older than that also! How far is too much of an age spread?difference? What is your comfort? level? For me? 10-15 years max either way? is what I had held so far. Am I being "old fashioned ? If I was to date a lady that young I'de fel like I was "robbing the cradle" or I am being?? a fuddy duddy. Conversely If I was dating a lady that was? 20 older than me? some folks would feel I was seeing her for reasons other than love .Am I being a"Square"?
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Lapband update #7
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03/10/09
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Several folks have asked for a Lap Band update so here it is.For those new to the site Ill give you a breif summary. In September 97 I lost my job I was at 450 in weight and miserable. After extreme soul searching I decided to take the time to get back to try to get the weight reduction surgury.I had tried twice several years before before once through the VA ( Total Pooch Party) and once though a major hospital that advertises weight reduction surgury here in my area lot. Both tries were a bust. So after serious thinking I finally went to another info session for the surgury after some disscusion was able to get the date for the consult . I was a mess,with me being almost 44, (at the time) 5'11 BMI over 62 a waist of 60+. weight over at 450 pounds . I could not walk a block before I was huffing and chuffing like a old wornout steam locomitive. I could not bend over to tie my shoes. I had no energy. I felt like the Stay Puff Marshmallow man. Now I am down to a size 54 waist , weight is down to 350 . I have alot more energy. I am now able to move a lot easier.(joints dont hurt as much ) Even getting a few cat calls from the ladies ( Thanks ladies my ego needed that!!!) My self immage has improved imensely (no pun intended). I can say the surgury was Not the Total answer. But a component of a multi layerd approach. By limiting the amout I can eat at one time. I am forced to make better food choices. Also I have to focus , and fix those past bad habbits that got me to this point.(myself I am a emotionial eater, and yes a sugar junkie, and was addicted to fried foods if you could fry it I did.) However those days are behind me( unless I fall of the wagon. ) Pray to god that I dont . I can say to those who are truely struggle with morbid obesity is you have to LOVE your self enough to change what is inside you. Change the self loathing of your body, to loving your body,and trhe person inside of you .But also making healthy choices to better support the new you you want to become. Hey It took many years of food abuse to get this way. So through years of hard work YOU CAN become the person inside and out you want to be!! I am not done on my journey to the perfection but . I have just begun. If I never start ,Will I be any closer in one year, or two , or three?
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Economically Dyslectic
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01/16/09
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As some of you remember may remember September 2007 I lost my job. I have without a job since. Now It seems that Since I am a lefty , I tend to do every thing backward. So now while most companies are laying off I found a job this week that the possabilities of a lay off are very slim . So I guess 2009 will be a good year for me after all. Now that I have already fulfilled on of my goals for the new year. I just have 2 more to get Ready to take off my list. One of them I know I'll will already meet soon . Lose more weight. But the one I hope really hope that I hope I get to remove Is to find A woman partner. Possiblly get to know really well. and may be start a life together.
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Greetings to all
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12/24/08
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Merry Christmas to All. May the Holidays bring you joy and happiness now and for the comming New Year. Here is a Big hug for those who Have no one to lean on. I raise my glass to toast: "May old freinds,new freinds gathered together with you ,remember those be only absent in presence not spirit!"
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My New Year Resolutions
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12/16/08
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My New Years resaloutions in no particular order are...1] To loose a nother 65 pounds by next December, [2]To find a new job
( being Out of work and broke Bites),[3] To find a special Lady to spend time with(tired of being alone!!!)[4]To get a whole new wardrobe. (Because if I lose another 65 pounds with the previous 60+ pound loss this year. nothing will fit, Nothing all ready fits(too lose allready )[5]Make new freinds and have a social life!!
So now that you know mine let me hear yours.
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Lapband update # 6
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12/16/08
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Howdy all. For those folks here who may have read my previous posts on this subject. bear with me. As of October of last year 2007 I was at or around 450 pounds through the next few months I have traveled on the journey to loose my self .Or rather I say loose half of me. Here is a update... as of last Wensday I have lost a rough total of over 70 pounds. The reason is it a rough total is I was so large the doctor's scale was too small I could not get a accurate weight. I figure I was around 440 pounds. Now through Diet, Exersize and the band I have gotten down to 363.4 at the last weighin. For those who are weighing the optiom of having surgury. all I can say that It is not a "majical cure" there are life style changes that must be takin in account. With the lapband you must Chew your food Very, Very well, or risk spending several hours in extreme Discomfort. when the stomach opening gets blocked. One must take their time and eat very slowly. A cheese sandwich that took only a minute to eat, Before the band takes around 20 minutes to eat. You might ask why if all the hassel did I do the lapband All I can say is that now I can see my feet with out leaning out over a vast expanse of belly. Also now I can find clothes that half way fit with out using several acres of fabric to make the garment.Plus when I find the right Lady I might have a chance of catching her if she runs. LOL.
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Frugal Holidays
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11/21/08
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With the Economic uneasiness of the past few months has caused me to ponder many things.I have come to the conclusion .That most of the things"we" get from others at the holidays time is all commercial Hype and you spend way too much time and money getting those things.Only to have them get relegated to the bottom of the closet because the really got tired of it or the refuse bin because it broke only after two days. As some of you know I have been out of work for over a year. Christmas was good last year every one got things , but with a catch I got them things that they really could use. Spending less than 20 dollars each I made up Sewing kits for each of the folks on my list. You get 1 spool of thread in black, white ,tan,green, blue and green. Along with that you get several packages of assorted buttons and a package of needles and a small case to store it in. To make a travel size case get a smaller storage box and use bobbins of thread instead of the larger spools.Or if you can bake something for your friends instead of buying it. Every body has something yummy that they can bake and the cost will be a lot less and those who get the items you bake should be just as happy or more that you actually took the time to personally make something for them.
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"IKE" and afterwards
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09/14/08
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For those who haven't been keeping up with the news lately Texans and our Cajun neighbors to the east this weekend got slammed hard by Hurricane "IKE" Although ( he) "IKE" was listed as a Category 2 hurricane He was one mile shy of being a Cat.3 hurricane.Where I am I only suffered 1 felled oak tree and a few broken branches on other trees . Although the worst was not having power since 2AM Saturday till Sunday around 10Am .I quess I am lucky no major holes in my body ,(except for where the chainsaw cut through my jeans leg . leaving two shallow, 2 inch cuts in my knee, I now have power so the things that I need are up and running(AIR CONDITIONING!!!) and the well for water. The news outlets are saying that a lot of other areas are still without power. Roughly 1.89 million electric customers ( roughly 4 million people )are without power. So keep them and the relief workers in your prayers.
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Lap Band Update# 4
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08/30/08
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For those who have followed my progress with the lap band success's and upsets. Here is a update.In my last blog Lap band #3. I left off with the doctor not able to find the fill port after 20 times with a 14 gage Needle 4 1/2 long and being wiggled around . the doctor stopped and tells ,me I have to get X-rays to see if the port has flipped over. I went to the local hospital nearby.(All I can say is that they have a nice looking big building and not much else good about this hospital.) Well after 300 dollars of inconclusive X-Rays (I really think the tech was a Student because they had to take about 15 shots and they still could not tell if the port had flipped)Well about 3 weeks later. Friday I Had to set up a Fluoroscope session with the hospital that did the Lap band(different hospital) with in 30 minutes they had the located the band, and the doctor was able to fill it to get the band adjusted. Only problem is I think the doctor may have adjusted it too far in.Today was the first day after the adjustment.It did not go well. For those who have the band know what fun it is when the food gets where it wont go down or up. After 3 hours Finally got relief. after had talked to a man about a BUICK.Now I am feeling a little better. All this because of a piece of food the size of your thumb nail.
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Demise of front porches
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08/23/08
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Recently several events in my life have got me to thinking about front porches. Not the minuscule entry ways that now appear on so many of the cookie cutter homes. But big honking front porches with the suspended swing seat. Where you could watch life go by .Chat to you neighbors.Drink your favorite iced beverage. The one that from her front perch the nosy neighbor could get word to your folks faster than a speeding bullet. Notification to your parents.That you were misbehaving and in to hooliganism.We as a society wonder why crime has risen. I feel it is in part because you don't know who your neighbor are. Because we now run and hide in our air conditioned , socially insulated homes.Having little social interactions with our neighbors. A report in the news recently that police has found a deceased woman(6 months) in her home.Police were called after , because the utilities lines easement had to be cleared and lines upgrades.The repair crews had to notify the home owner's about the impending work.To make a long story short none of her neighbors ever checked up on her. They complained about the tall grass in her yard to others. but none never went to ask if she needed help with the cutting the grass. If they would have had front porches and used them this might have prevented. Because if you know whom your neighbor is.You will be able to figure out if that moving truck parked at your neighbors is really moving them or in the process of robbing them. TO illustrate the point I remember years ago while at collage. I lived in the dorm. I was the type when I heard a noise I'd look out to see what it was .Well the guy next door got upset.Because I had always done this.One day he confronted me(REALLY NASTILY)So I told him OK . I won't.Between the confrontation and next morning he got robbed.He came back crawling and asking. If I had seen anything. I told him no because you were so upset about me seeing who came and went down the halls.I heard noise from his room. But, since the (NICE TALK ) we had had did not check. I guess what I am trying to say is (NO ONE IS AN ISLAND).We all must look after our neighbors.
Because, If you don't who will look after you ? When you are in need ? Or when you are away from your home?
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Scars that you can't see.
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08/11/08
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Recently several events have made me ponder this Question. Which does more harm to a person in a relationship. Is it the physical abuse or is it the scars that you can't see unless you really look. The emotional and psychological scars that poison a relationship and a persons spirit. I know from my child hood that the scars on the spirit never really heal, without professional help. I also know that Women who are in a Abusive relationship keep thinking," I can't leave him, no body Will want me". " He says he is sorry and he won't do it again"."Or it was my fault, I made him mad". Or "Nobody else will love me". The reason is that their self esteem has been ground down by the abuser by all the negative snide remarks. "So that they the abused see no other option except to stay and pray the he will change. All I can Say if you suspect abuse stand up for the one who is being abused.Be friend to that person support them any way you can. Tell them you can call at any time for help, a ride out of the home or just some one to talk too. To not help some one that is being abused( or you suspect is being) to me is just as bad as if you were doing it yourself to that person.It Is just WRONG and IMMORAL to not act.The life you save may be one most important things you ever save from destruction.You may save, your's or some Else's sister , brother mother,daughter ,son, father. Yes men can be abused too, So it affects all, genders, Races, Creeds, Nationalities and socio economic backgrounds
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Lap Band Update #3
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07/23/08
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Well I went to the doctor today got great news . Since the last visit. I had lost 12.5 pounds since my surgury. Have 2 Incisions that Qite havent healed,but are a mere minor wounds. compared to what they were 3 weeks ago. Eating normal food now. just have to take eating my foods slow.(I have gone from Mach 6 eating to an Amish buggy) It feeels Great!!
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DR Visit post
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07/15/08
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sdlrglady don't let money or the lack of it stand in the way of getting lap band surgery. As for me so It has been the best money I have ever spent( so far). mine has cost me less than 20 thousand for the doctor and hospital cost.That was Cash on the Barrel Head. Is it the perfect answer to being over weight , No but it is a tool to aid one in modifying their behavior to become healthier, It also will take work to exercise to help keep the excess weight off. Before I got off my duff and got real serious about getting healthier my weight was over 450.Through diet and exercise before surgery got down to 407. It has been three weeks , haven't got on a scale but I feel; a lot better.The F5 hunger I had has now been turned into a Harmless hay devil. It has helped, I know that I Must modify the way I think and feel about food.and make positive , healthier choices .
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To lap band or not update
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06/29/08
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As some of you know that I have struggled with the decision to have Lap band surgery or not. Well a update .On June 26 I had the Lap Band surgery. I have observed the following things that have happened since. 1) My chest/ stomach area feels like King Kong used it for a trampoline. My apatite has gone from a Ravenous black hole, to nothing. A 20 once drink that used to take.025 seconds to be gone , now takes almost three hours. Before I could eat three 40 oz bowls of soup at a sitting now If I am lucky 3oz in a hour. I know that this decision is leading me to a better , and hopefully longer life. With a little luck, and a bit of time I'll be able to chase after that special some one and not need a Ambulance standing by.
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Shows I'de like to see made.
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05/12/08
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With the recent cookie cutter shows being made lately TV has been getting boring. the show I'de like to see you take 25 U.S. Congressmen take them to the real streets. Strip them of their cell phones , pda's money and power. Place them in the meanest, most poverty stricken streets that you can find and let them have to stay their for 90 days. On their own with only the resources that the can get by working them selves.Would you not like to see that? the title of the show would "Culture Shock"
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