Hi all, I met my husband on this site several years ago. We are still very happily married, but he has become disabled and our lives have changed quite a bit. We can't do many of the things we used to and that is painful for both of us. I'm just reaching out to old friends on here and maybe hoping to make some new ones. NOT looking for a sexual relationship of ANY kind. Are any of my old friends still here?
For those who don't know me, my fiance and I met here. He lives in Australia. I live in Michigan. We plan to be married on New Year's Eve.
We just got word this morning that my Australian Prospective Spouse Visa has been granted! This means that I can move to Australia so we can get married and live there together! I woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him.
So I know I don't check in here much anymore, but this site is DEAD!
No one has posted a new blog in the past 3 days?
The number of views per blog are incredibly low?
Is this because of the recent changes in the site? Do people just not hang out here anymore for other reasons?
When I joined this site 3 years ago the blogs were so active and we had a host of witty posters and multiple posts each day. Now we are down to a handful of regulars and it seems even they aren't active anymore.
What is going on here? Where are all of you? My old friends? New folks? :(
I've noticed recently when reading these blogs that there is a lot of discussion of generalities regarding both sexes and most of it is laced with negativity toward the other gender.
This has made me wonder. Do you REALLY believe that you can throw all men or all women into a categorey and make true generalizations about them?
Men are liars. Really? Women cheat? Honestly? Men don't communicate. Is that right? Women are too picky. You're sure?
I wouldn't say any one of those statements are true. Do I know some men and women who are true to those statements. Certainly. Are they the majority of the men and women I know? No way.
Generalizing about a gender, to me, is the same as generalizing about an ethnicity. It's like saying the Irish are drunks. I'm Irish so I can pick on my own ethnicity - :) But the majority of the Irish I know are NOT drunks.
Ladies and gentlemen if you really believe that about your opposite gender then you are wasting your time searching here. I know we all get frustrated because there ARE a good deal of people who don't play the dating game honestly, especially the online version.
But here's the question. If you think all men are jerks or all women are cheaters why do you keep looking?
I know. You are hoping someone will prove you wrong. But think about it. If someone knows you think all of the opposite gender are jerks - he/she is more likely to pass you by.
I suspect for the average human being it would take too much energy to try to move the mountain that is your preconceived assessment of their gender.
For all of you who know my situation I wanted to give you an update.
As of 5:30 pm today I have filed my application for an Australian Prospective Spouse Visa. The process can take anywhere from 3 to 10 months (or more). Once the visa is granted you have 9 months to enter the country and marry your fiance - so timing it is tricky. It was important not to file it too early, but then you don't want it to come too late either. Our wedding is scheduled for December 31st. I'm hoping we timed it well.
Please cross your fingers for me that 1) the visa will be APPROVED and 2) the approval comes in plenty of time for the wedding. I'd really like to move there in October.
A friend (no its not ME, lol!) has a boyfriend who has many female friends, most of whom are former girlfriends. Recently she snooped (yes, we ALL know that was wrong) and found a text message on his cell-phone that indicated he'd been heavily sexually flirting with one of these women friends just the night before. My friend was devastatated. This man is someone she believes is "the one" and she is very much in love with him. They are both young, but she believes they will marry and build a family together.
She confronted him, they had a fight, and he initially blamed the other woman for tempting him. He promised never to speak with the other woman again and was very upset at the prospect of having ruined this relationship.
After the fight, she left. He talked to his parents and his closest friend. And then after they both had time to cool off, he talked to her. He then "manned-up", admitting it was his mistake. Luckily it was only a one time thing and the situation had not progressed to "physical" cheating.
They talked for a long time and decided they love each other enough not to throw everything away over this. It may take her awhile to trust him again, but she has forgiven him and they are moving forward together.
My question is - if this were your situation how would you handle it? Was it cheating? Would you dump him?
Or would you be able to get past it and move forward together?