Is it cheating? Is it forgivable?
A friend (no its not ME, lol!) has a boyfriend who has many female friends, most of whom are former girlfriends. Recently she snooped (yes, we ALL know that was wrong) and found a text message on his cell-phone that indicated he'd been heavily sexually flirting with one of these women friends just the night before. My friend was devastatated. This man is someone she believes is "the one" and she is very much in love with him. They are both young, but she believes they will marry and build a family together.
She confronted him, they had a fight, and he initially blamed the other woman for tempting him. He promised never to speak with the other woman again and was very upset at the prospect of having ruined this relationship.
After the fight, she left. He talked to his parents and his closest friend. And then after they both had time to cool off, he talked to her. He then "manned-up", admitting it was his mistake. Luckily it was only a one time thing and the situation had not progressed to "physical" cheating.
They talked for a long time and decided they love each other enough not to throw everything away over this. It may take her awhile to trust him again, but she has forgiven him and they are moving forward together.
My question is - if this were your situation how would you handle it? Was it cheating? Would you dump him?
Or would you be able to get past it and move forward together?
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