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Posted on Wed, Oct 01, 2008 01:14

You ladies can read also, I won't mind. I have been reading the blogs for a few days now and am starting to see a pattern from a few certain guys on here. I wish this one was still here because I would like to tell him a few things but he has chosen to take his toys and go home, I will however ask you ladies this--could you really see yourself in a relationship with someone that quotes his IQ to you every chance he gets? I have not read anything he wrote except the boxes where some have quoted him yet he still pi$$es me off. To another guy here, I want to say his name so bad but I will use a little decorum here. I those that word because that is what he seems to lack decorum and tact. I looked at your profile and saw that you are a grown man of (almost gave it away who I'm talking to) lets just say you are older than me yet you say things to the ladies here that a 15 year old knows better than say, one with a proper upbringing anyway. Maybe this is just the southern coming out in me but I was reared to be a gentleman and this includes treating a lady like a lady (in public anyway lol). you start most of your post well but you seem to not know where to start. There is more than one time this happened but the one that inspired this post is this. One of the ladies ask for an opinion, nothing more, you gave a nice compliment but also add that she is not for you. ( still love y'all tho) Anyway, you should have stopped with the compliment. The only time to tell a lady she is not for you is if she winks at you and even then I think you should be ready with a reason why just in case. The reason I say this part is if it's something about the profile tell her, if it's her looks don't tell her. See thats how it works, it's called thinking, it hurts but we all get over it. (I love that joke). Anyway, the ladies on this site are not the type to let this go so several comments are made about you then you just pick up your shovel and dig that hole you are in deeper. From the comments you come back with it is apparent you are either embarrassed, pi$$ed or both, LET IT GO. You have 3 choices here 2 are good one is bad you seem to always take the one bad one. You can either apologize, just let it drop or fight back, you always fight back. Not good. I seek not to embarrass anyone but to pass on what I hope is wisdom. I want you guys to know that all these ladies know about you is what you put on here through profiles and anywhere you decide to speak on the site. I will admit that some of the ladies seem to be looking for a reason to squabble all the time (yes I know I'm gonna get it for that one.) Think guys, thats all I'm saying, It's not that hard to hit the Preview button down there and read what you are about to put out there for the world to read. I think I can give all the men here a little piece of advice about this, ask butter, he seems to know how to think with his upper head (I said upper instead of bigger cause I don't know him like that HA!). I just hope the guy I'm speaking of here figures out its him and takes this to heart instead of pushing back like is his normal pattern.Good luck to all---Tom (my typing finger hurts now I need to reboot)


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Posted on Tue, Oct 14, 2008 18:40

pssst Tom... I did it on purpose ... you're welcome! enjoy your free week!


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Posted on Tue, Oct 14, 2008 13:53

Quoting: Originally posted by bigtom77 Who ever said I don't like him. I don't know him so I have no personal feelings of him. I know I started this blog but after that I only answered you and him. I have never stopped his post or reported him (as someone did) This post started with a short paragraph about him and a lot about someone else that either left or has not figured out its him. I would like to, however, Thank you and Aries for the free week cause y'all just can't let this thing go. Next week I will post something else about him to get another week, thank you very much. Let the man post I know how to ignore him, or not its my choice. If i didn't know better I would swear there was something going on the........never mind.

Tiz only a 'War of Words' tommy boy...now that i've seen ur photo.


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Posted on Tue, Oct 14, 2008 13:49

Quoting: Originally posted by smoosh Please tell me that we are not going to resort to correcting spelling and grammar in the blogs? We would have to then consider all the innuendo's blogs as being incorrect then and so much for slang and short forms etc etc. Play nice boys....

Love ya Smoosh.x. But some things are SO simple, they shouldn't need correcting.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 09, 2008 22:19

Quoting: Originally posted by kewanna2007 my question to you Tom is why do you dislike ariesram so much? what has he ever done to you personally? just because he is different from you doesn't make him bad. can't you just do your thing and let him do his? I just don't understand. If you don't like what he says, then just ignore him.

Who ever said I don't like him. I don't know him so I have no personal feelings of him. I know I started this blog but after that I only answered you and him. I have never stopped his post or reported him (as someone did) This post started with a short paragraph about him and a lot about someone else that either left or has not figured out its him. I would like to, however, Thank you and Aries for the free week cause y'all just can't let this thing go. Next week I will post something else about him to get another week, thank you very much. Let the man post I know how to ignore him, or not its my choice. If i didn't know better I would swear there was something going on the........never mind.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 09, 2008 17:04

my question to you Tom is why do you dislike ariesram so much? what has he ever done to you personally? just because he is different from you doesn't make him bad. can't you just do your thing and let him do his? I just don't understand. If you don't like what he says, then just ignore him.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 08, 2008 19:33

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Once AGAIN, it's YOU ARE...or YOU'RE....Ha Ha Ho Ho He He!

Please tell me that we are not going to resort to correcting spelling and grammar in the blogs? We would have to then consider all the innuendo's blogs as being incorrect then and so much for slang and short forms etc etc. Play nice boys....


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Posted on Wed, Oct 08, 2008 10:33

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Once AGAIN, it's YOU ARE...or YOU'RE....Ha Ha Ho Ho He He!

Just proves I'm not perfect like you think you are. I can't help but wonder when you talk do you laugh at everything you say as your ha haing and he heing would suggest? Oh gee I made a mistake maybe I should run and hide.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 08, 2008 00:28

Quoting: Originally posted by bigtom77 I told my problem, your smarter than the world, your better than the world, thats about it. I would like to say before someone else does that I know that it's your right to voice your opinion but it's also my right. May I also point out that there must be some measure of truth if you knew it was you I was speaking of. Good luck to you---Tom PS. I just want to point out that sticking a haha at the end does not always soften the blow or make it better if you are being a smarta$$.

Once AGAIN, it's YOU ARE...or YOU'RE....Ha Ha Ho Ho He He!


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Posted on Wed, Oct 08, 2008 00:25

Quoting: Originally posted by bigtom77 I told my problem, your smarter than the world, your better than the world, thats about it. I would like to say before someone else does that I know that it's your right to voice your opinion but it's also my right. May I also point out that there must be some measure of truth if you knew it was you I was speaking of. Good luck to you---Tom PS. I just want to point out that sticking a haha at the end does not always soften the blow or make it better if you are being a smarta$$.

It's...'you are' or 'you're' HaHa!


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Posted on Wed, Oct 08, 2008 00:24

Quoting: Originally posted by kewanna2007 I personally like a man who is himself... first and foremost... and that is what ariesram is (sorry for the poor grammar). Is he like you or butter? nah... but that's not necessarily bad. Every person has their own personality and you (or anyone else) may not get along with some people and yet others will. Variety... ahhhh... the spice of life!

Too true, Kewanna. That told 'em! x


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Posted on Mon, Oct 06, 2008 15:00

Oh please don't take my comments as being angry, because I'm not. I just happen to find someone who is "out there" refreshing ... but that's me. I don't wear my feelings on my sleeve just waiting for someone to offend me... that's just not for me. Again... I don't mean that in an ugly way at all. I have been on this site for a long time (first looking for love ... then I met my hubby here... and now I stick around for the friends I made here) and I have seen many people come and go... all of whom are different in their likes and dislikes. The bottom line is that everyone is different. Just because someone is not like you doesn't make them "bad" or wrong. But yes, he did say positive things as well. Not everything from ariesram was controversial.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 05, 2008 01:05

I think some men (and women) are much more bold online than they might ever be in person, no matter HOW much they swear the online persona resembles their true life personality. Most people can be easily "interpreted" from their blogs. If someone writes enough, invariably they will leave in the words bits and pieces of themselves. Put all those pieces together, and you might make a page. It takes many, many readings to get the whole book. In my opinion, though, once you read enough of the preface, you can get the idea of the book and decide if you want to buy it. Our bloggers are the same. Some are good about writing what might be interesting to us all, while using bits and pieces of their lives to make sense of it all. Others, like to read the books and even do some writing themselves. However, they lack the basic skills to combine the expression of their own opinions and views with the interaction of other human beings. They can only do one thing at a time-- much like not being able to walk and chew gum simultaneously. --True


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Posted on Fri, Oct 03, 2008 01:04

Quoting: Originally posted by kewanna2007 I personally like a man who is himself... first and foremost... and that is what ariesram is (sorry for the poor grammar). Is he like you or butter? nah... but that's not necessarily bad. Every person has their own personality and you (or anyone else) may not get along with some people and yet others will. Variety... ahhhh... the spice of life!

Thank you for your comments. If you will read my reply to the Ram you will see that I said he has the right to his opinion as I do mine and you yours. This blog was not to anger but rather teach, not every person wants to hear the same kind of comments to different types of blogs. I will have to admit that his blogs were pulled before I got back to the site so maybe, sometimes, he did have a serious answer for someone if so I apologize now, if not I don't. I only have the ones someone quoted from to go by. The truth is, I think I already stated, my comments were an afterthought. The other guy(s) are the ones I really meant this blog to be for. The guys that take a simple blog and use it to advertise or put someone down. If Ram has said something positive to anyone in the past then, like I said I apologize now. Good luck to you Kewanna---Tom


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Posted on Fri, Oct 03, 2008 01:03

Quoting: Originally posted by islandgal64 BigTom, I like the way you're thinking and totally get where you're coming from. Don't forget though that most of the women on here - or at least the ones who bother to blog - are strong, with their own views and opinions. Yes there are some idiotic comments on here at times, but I think most of us are able to deal with them or ignore them, whichever seems the most appropriate at the time. I say let them speak out - it allows us to see their true colours and make our own opinions, after all what one women might loathe another might love! Ooops ..... this wasn't for the women to respond to was it? lol!!

Hi Islandgal, please see my reply to Oz I know better than tell a lady she can't comment. lol I know you ladies are strong and thats a very good thing, I like strong women. I have never liked those that take advantage of anyone or pick on anyone. We are all weak from time to time, even day to day, strong and got it together today and wonder why the world hates us the next. These are the times that a lady needs a shoulder not a smarta$$ (i almost put the ss then this would pass would it.HA pass the blog there's a subject for another day.) there is a time to joke, a time to flirt, a time to tell a lady she is not your type and a time to shut up. some people just need to learn to do the latter more. Good luck to you Island---Tom


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Posted on Thu, Oct 02, 2008 17:42

I personally like a man who is himself... first and foremost... and that is what ariesram is (sorry for the poor grammar). Is he like you or butter? nah... but that's not necessarily bad. Every person has their own personality and you (or anyone else) may not get along with some people and yet others will. Variety... ahhhh... the spice of life!


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Posted on Thu, Oct 02, 2008 12:31

BigTom, I like the way you're thinking and totally get where you're coming from. Don't forget though that most of the women on here - or at least the ones who bother to blog - are strong, with their own views and opinions. Yes there are some idiotic comments on here at times, but I think most of us are able to deal with them or ignore them, whichever seems the most appropriate at the time. I say let them speak out - it allows us to see their true colours and make our own opinions, after all what one women might loathe another might love! Ooops ..... this wasn't for the women to respond to was it? lol!!


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Posted on Thu, Oct 02, 2008 11:53

Quoting: Originally posted by bluegirl2006 See? I told ya you were one of the good ones! ;)

Thank you birdy, I hope to find someone to prove this to someday.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 02, 2008 11:50

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Not every chance...only when needed. What's your problem then...pray tell.

I told my problem, your smarter than the world, your better than the world, thats about it. I would like to say before someone else does that I know that it's your right to voice your opinion but it's also my right. May I also point out that there must be some measure of truth if you knew it was you I was speaking of. Good luck to you---Tom PS. I just want to point out that sticking a haha at the end does not always soften the blow or make it better if you are being a smarta$$.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 02, 2008 11:49

Quoting: Originally posted by one2one Huge hug for you!

Thank you one2one I needed that.


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