Hi all, This blog is not meant to offend anyone and I hope it doesn't, but I have been thinking about this for a while. This is more about another dating site that shall remain nameless but I do know some here FISH there too. What's up with women having things on their profile about not looking for just sex yet their pic is subjective. Now don't get me wrong, I like a good cleavage shot as much as the next guy and I say show your assets, if you got it flaunt it. The pics I'm talking about are the ones that go low enough to ALMOST show more then cleavage, the ones that show enough to tell for sure that your toppless if not nude. I have also seen swimsuits so small they are only legal in Europe. (ok I lie a little) I guess what I'm trying to say is if a lady has a pic of themself sitting at their computer showing enough that it seems your toppless then most men are going to think this is a woman I can see her stuff on cam. I'm sorry but that's the way men think (don't think I have been trying to cam with someone I'm just saying lol). I was talking to a friend yesterday and she reminded me that it is said that men think about sex every 13 seconds. With all that thinking we don't need help with pics like that. The point here is if you want to find love then stop looking like your willing to be a one night stand or less. Again, I hope I didn't offend, good luck all---Tom
Weird title ain't it? You see that's the last time I posted a blog on here and untill a few days ago 12/24/08 was the last time I commented on someone else's blog. Dang, it seems like years. You all will never know what I have been through in the last two months for 2 reasons #1)It's personal and #2) It would show that someone here was right and I will not give her the satifition =). Like I said it seems like a lot longer then 3 months but I have been checking in from time to time to read but not replying, I wanted to welcome all the new blogers and say hello to my old friends. I have a few friends from this site that droppedoff the face of the earth, I'm talking about some I had really gotten to know, I hope their being gone means they found the love of their life b/c it seems that it's always either that or discouragement that makes people leave the blogs and stop talking to friends.
Well, I just droped by to say I am back so you can look forward to reading some more crap from me. Sorry, had to say that. Good luck to you all---Tom
Ray and Bubba were standing at the base of a flagpole looking up when a woman walked by and asked what they were doing. "We suppose to figure out the height of this here pole" Bubba said "but we ain't got no ladder."
The woman took a wrench from her purse, loosened a few bolts, and laid the pole down. She reached back into her purse, pulled out a tape measure, took a measurement and announced, "eighteen foot six inches", then walked away.
Ray watched he go then started laughing and shaking his head, "ain't that just like a woman?" "Here we is needing the height and she gives us the length."
It is rumored that Ray and Bubba now work for the government.
I posted a comment to another blog just a while ago and my own words got me to thinking. Everyone that reads the blogs regularly knows that I am not long out of a long, off and on, bad relationship. I was asked, after I had written a comment on a blog, to show my profile again. I guess I must have said something right that day, but if not for being asked to do it I would still have my profile hid. I know I am not ready for love yet, I have talked to some great ladies on this site and have become friends with a few, but I think they also know I am not ready. I am happy to say I am still getting better everyday and like I have said before I know I will get there.
Now to the point,(I bet you were wondering if there was one lol) how many of you are here, on a dating site, but you are not really ready to date yet? I know I would not be here yet if I had not already been a member before my nine month mistake. Some of you know I did date during the two years between the divorce and her coming back but I wasn't ready. I even dated one lady from this site for eleven months of those two years, lucky for me she NOW understands that I wasn't ready and she and I have become friends, besides she found the man of her dreams she said so I guess it was good I wasn't there when that happened.:)
I do not expect anyone to answer this one to the LF world but ask yourself: How's your heart? Are you really ready to love again? There is nothing wrong with seeing what's out there and making friends to try to become more later but are you really ready?
Hi all, There has been a lot of blogs lately about romance or relating to romance. I read an article today from esquire about what makes a good first date. They said bringing flowers is no longer the right way to go. They go on to say a trinket bought at a dollar store is the way to go these days. So I think you see the question I'm asking you ladies. If you had a first date tonight (not a first meeting but a real date) would you be upset if your date brought you flowers?
Well, I told you it was coming and here it is. I hope to keep this one shorter (I can't believe y'all read that book I wrote lol)but I can't guarantee it. We all know the things I am about to say but a lot of us here are divorced so SOMEBODY forgot them. When you meet the one you decide to take on as your life partner, well first off take the time to get to know them. There are so many couples that do not last simply because they do not know each other before making what should be a life long commitment.
Now, you know them well, you have dated for a while and maybe even had a long engagement (something I did but it didn't help), so now it's time to start your walk together. Remember this folks, this walk is not an easy one. As we walk hand in hand, guess what, there's them dang crossroads. Sometimes these crossroads are not four way stops, yep thats right it's either left or right, so what to do then? A lot of people I know that are divorced are so because of these situations. Why, you may ask, that's an easy one, they may have decided the new path together but they are no longer holding hands. That's my point of this story, it's not enough to walk together but you must be together.
Theres a lot of times on this road of life that our path follows close to another of those people that are right for us (see Crossroads blog if you have not already). What are we to do when this happens, thats also easy if were willing to do it, if you are already holding the hand of your partner then just look down, let your eyes move from the hand your holding up the arm attached and look at the face of the one that won your heart to start with.(sappy huh?)
I think if we take this walk together we should make every decision together. Have you ever seen those old TV shows like Leave It To Beaver, where Ward would come home and announce, "my boss will be here in about an hour"? Soooooo wrong. Every couple face the bigger things together but it's the little side roads that make the difference in the life of a couple, if you are not walking completely together (I'm tired of saying holding hands) it is real easy for one, the other or both to stray down a side road. Once these side roads are taken there is a big chance that your two roads never completely intersect again. There is an answer to this problem also, they will come close enough for the two of you to grab hold and pull each other back to the main road again, the main problem with this plan is too many people have too much pride to admit their on the wrong path so they will not work on getting back to the main road again.
OK folks at this point I did a preview and noticed I had written another book so I will come to the end soon. I hope someone out there is getting something from all these rambling thoughts of mine, there is a lot of stuff going on in my head right now, and I thought I had killed all my brain cells when I was younger. Those few little guys that are left are busy right now so I wouldn't count on this being my lat blog along this line. I hope each of us here find someone to make us happy, that we accept these people's flaws (sounds like another blog) and walk the new path hand in hand and make it work...Till death does you part. I better stop now...later---Tom
Hi all, I am just sitting here early, very early, on a Tuesday morning, nothing on the tube, so I have my music playing and the old songs are making me think about where I was When the song was "big". I guess I'm also thinking that every place I was I made a choice to be there. Everything we do in life is a choice, a "crossroad" we must face. So what if I had gone down a different path at each of these crossroads? What if I had not quit that job when I was 24 to start another, where would I be now? What if I had not married my ex, would I have found someone that would have stayed with me forever or would I still be alone? I will admit I was very shy when I met her and she helped me come out of that shell. the guy I was then would have never be putting something like this out for the world to see, so I guess it's true that good things come from everything.
I think what I am trying to get to is this--have you ever thought where you would be with a small change in your past? A few weeks ago Ram wrote a blog about depression, well I have been there also. I allowed myself to be transfered to another city years ago and for some reason I hated, really HATED the city I went to live and work in and thus started my years of deep, but hidden, depression so what if I had not gone? Just think how all the small things we decide to or not to do can become such big things down the road. There is no one crossroad (decision)that I can say for sure would have changed my life for the better or the worse, but the thing is I don't know what entirely different life decision (crossroad) I would have faced if I had just taken another road years back.
We all face these crossroads everyday, sometimes we don't realize it was a crossroad till years later when you say what if I had done or not done this small thing. I have to wonder that if any of you realize that when you joined this site you were at a crossroad? you could have decided to join another site, decided to keep looking on your own or even decided to just live with being alone. There are 100 plus success stories on this site, what if they had not joined here, would they have ever met or would they have found someone else to make them just as happy? Whoever it was that said there's someone for everyone had to be wrong because with every decision leading down a new road there must be more then one someone for everyone or all these crossroads would never lead to the ONE somebody. we just have to accept the road were on and find the one for you whose road is running side by side with yours at that time you both need to decide to start a whole new road together and always walk that road together. That is a whole different blog there. (coming soon I do believe).
Choose your roads carefully folks, you have to walk it for a long time. Good luck to each and everyone here, happy choosing---Tom
Brad had a blind date with Ashley for the prom and, as the evening progressed, he found himself attracted to her more and more. After some really passionate embracing, he said, "Tell me, do you object to making love?"
"That's something I have never done before," Ashley replied.
"Never made love? You mean you are a virgin?" Brad was amazed.
"No, silly!" she giggled. "I've never objected!"
A boy and his date were parked on a back road some distance from town, doing what boys and girls do on back roads some distance from town. Things were getting hot and heavy when the girl stopped the boy.
"I really should ave mentioned this earlier, but I'm actually a hooker and I charge $20 for sex," she said.
The boy just looked at her for a couple of seconds, but then reluctantly paid her, and they did their thing.
After the cigarette, the boy just sat in the driver's seat looking out the window. "Why aren't we going anywhere?" asked the girl.
"Well, I should have mentioned this before, but I'm actually a taxi driver, and the fare back to town is $25."
A few days ago smin2u posted a question about what romance is, I think you know that.lol I posted a couple of replies to this blog but afterwords my own words got me to thinking. I guess if you read what I wrote then you now know I believe in romance, but ladies, I want to point out some problems I have ran into with romance over the years. I am in no way saying it's bad to romance someone but I did give a few pointers so now it's counterpoint time.
A few years back (between the divorce and taking her back) I was with someone I met on here. One night a few weeks after we had taken the big step and started sleeping together, I decided to try something that I thought she would like. Before I go on here I just want to say I am not saying these things here to make anyone think I am Casanova or anything like that but the things I say are things I have done. She went to take her bath and I thought it would be nice to bathe her, no details but she did enjoy it. ;) The problem started a few nights later when she asked me to bathe her again, I was flattered then that I had found something she had liked and put it on my mental list as something to do at special times. She started asking more and more until she got to where she expected me to do this. I guess what I am saying here is do not turn a romantic gesture into a chore. The same woman also started expecting the back rubs (witch I give out to the one I am with freely and often) but if you expect things everyday it is now a chore.
Katwoman wants a candlelight dinner, a simple enough show of love and affection but if Kat had dinner by candlelight 4 or 5 times a week it would become routine soon and not special to her.
Another problem that I have found, this one may not ever be done by any other woman but my ex wife is who I am thinking of here. I don't know just how to put this one, maybe I overdid the romance over the years (I personally think there can not be too much, but I will never know) but romance does not mean "you have to sleep with me right now". Yes, sometimes it is meant to lead to sex but please ladies do not think that the only reason you are getting romanced is to get you into bed. Some guys are not like that, I would never sleep with someone I don't have have feelings for and I will not make a big romantic move without feelings involved also. OK I got off track but the thing I am saying here is do not read things into what your man is doing. There is a bunch of jokes about if your man brings flowers home he is doing something wrong, this could be true but it could also be he was just thinking about you, so like I said unless you have reason to think otherwise think of the little things as good things.
Well, I got that one out, not sure if I put anything in a way to be understood but bottom line is 1) Don't expect the same thing everyday or it won't be special anymore 2) Don't look at what he does for you as a way out of trouble or a way in to the bedroom.---Tom
Popular sayings from a wise man!
1. Man who run in front of car get tired.
2. Man who run behind car get exhausted.
3. Man with one chopstick go hungry.
4. Man who scratch butt should not bite fingernails.
5. Man who eat many prunes get good run for money.
6. Baseball is wrong: man with four balls can not walk.
7. Man who live in glass house should change clothes in basement.
8.Crowded elevator smell different to little people.
9.Man who drive like hell, bound to get there.
10. Man who stand on toilet is high on pot.
11. It take many nails to build a crib, but one screw to fill it.
12. Woman who put husband in doghouse soon find him in cathouse.
Hope you enjoy---Tom
I just finished watching the news and I am upset. Here in MS there was a guy arrested a few days ago for texting a twelve (12) year old girl for sex. This guy got out of jail this morning because the arresting officer forgot to sign the warrant. It just ain't right. A few years ago a guy in north MS was set loose on the same grounds after he committed rape, thats right the worst thing that can be done, and he went home cause a guy forgot to sign something. It just ain't right. Don't get me wrong, I love this country and think most of our laws that are set in place to protect people are good, but this ain't right. I have heard stories about people that kill others but don't go to prison for years because their high price lawyers keep finding ways to delay things.
I am wondering would it be possible to get a cop on your side and set up the unsigned paper? I am friends with a lot of the cops here and even kin with some, so maybe I should start a crime spree, get someone to "lose" some important evidence or something.
Anyway, we have people that blog from other countries so I was wondering, do y'all have these laws that will let people get away with anything if all the I's aren't dotted or the T's crossed, or do your laws go the other way and people that are not guilty end up going to jail just because they aren't liked by the cops. I would like to hear how things work in other places as well as other Americans ranting. It can't be just me that thinks it just ain't right.---Tom
A kindergarten class had a homework assignment to find out something exciting and relate it to the class the next day.
When the time came to present what they'd found, the first little boy the teacher called on walked up to the front of the class, and with a piece of chalk, made a small white dot on the blackboard and sat back down.
Puzzled, the teacher asked him what it was. 'It's a period,' he replied. 'I can see that,' said the teacher, 'but what is so exciting about a period?
'Darned if I know,' he said, 'but this morning my sister was missing one, my mom fainted, my dad had a heart attack, and the boy next door joined the Navy'.
One evening a husband, thinking he was being funny, said to his wife 'Perhaps we should start washing your clothes in Slim Fast. Maybe it would take a few inches off of your butt!'
His wife was not amused, and decided that she simply couldn't let such a comment go unrewarded.
The next morning the husband took a pair of underwear out of his drawer. 'What the h@ll is this??' he said to himself as a little 'dust' cloud appeared when he shook them out.
'April,' he hollered into the bathroom, 'why did you put talcum powder in my underwear?'
She replied ...'It's not talcum powder......It's 'Miracle Grow'
It's not funny. Enjoy---Tom
A woman was sitting at a bar enjoying an after work cocktail with her girlfriends when Steven a tall,exceptionally handsome, extremely sexy, middle-aged man entered. He was so striking that the woman Could not take her eyes off him. The young-at-heart man noticed her overly attentive stare and walked directly toward her (as any man would). Before she could offer her apologies for staring so rudely, he leaned over and whispered to her, 'I'll do anything, absolutely anything, that you want me to do, no matter how kinky, for only $20.00" he whispered "on one condition." Flabbergasted, the woman asked what the condition was. The man replied, "You have to tell me what you want me to do in just three words."
The woman considered his proposition for a moment, And then slowly removed a $20 bill from her purse, Which she pressed into the man's hand along with her address. She looked deeply into his eyes, and slowly and meaningfully said....
"Clean my house."
HA! I hope y'all enjoy this as much as I did---Tom
Husband: Oh, come on.
Wife: Leave me alone!
Husband: It won't take long.
Wife: I won't be able to sleep afterwords.
Husband: I can't sleep without it.
Wife: Why do you think of things like this in the middle of the night?
Husband: Because I'm Hot.
Wife: You get hot at the darnedest times.
Husband: If you love me I wouldn't have to beg you.
Wife: If you love me you'd be more considerate.
Husband: You don't love me anymore.
Wife: Yes I do, but let's forget it for tonight.
Husband: Please...come on
Wife: Alright, I'll do it.
Husband: What's the matter? Need a flashlight?
Wife: I can't find it.
Husband: Oh, for heaven's sake, feel for it!
Wife: There! Are you satisfied?
Husband: Oh, yes.
Wife: Is it up far enough?
Husband: ! Oh, that's good.
Wife: Now go to sleep, and from now on when you want the window open,
do it yourself.
Now, what were you expecting? I could see those sick minds working out there. Hope y'all enjoy---Tom
Two women friends had gone for a girl's night out. Both were very faithful and loving wives, however they had gotten a little over-enthusiastic with the Bacardi this time.
Incredibly drunk and walking home they needed to Pee, so they stopped in a cemetery they were walking by. They searched their purses but found nothing to wipe with, one woman decided she would just remove her panties and use them. Her friend however was wearing a rather expensive pair of panties and did not want to ruin them. She was lucky enough to squat down next to a grave that had a wreath with a ribbon on it, so she proceeded to wipe with that. After the girls did their business they proceeded to go home.
The next day one of the woman's husbands was concerned that his
normally sweet and innocent wife was still in bed hung over, so he
phoned the other husband and said: "These girl's nights have got to stop! I'm starting to suspect the worst. My wife came home with no panties!!" "That's nothing" said the other, "Mine came back with a card stuck to her a$$ that said.....
"From all of us at the Fire Station. We'll never forget you."
Here are a few I found, some are not bad.
Women are like...the stock market
They're irrational and can bankrupt you if you're not careful.
Women are like...computers
They take too long to warm up and a better model always comes along once you've already got one.
Women are like...Saran Wrap
Useful but clingy.
Women are like...horses
Fun to pet and ride but a pain to feed and clean up after.
Women are like...parking meters
If you don't feed them with enough money you face serious consequences.
Women are like...fax machines
Useful for one very specific purpose but otherwise just high-maintenance paperweights.
Women are like...political campaign contributors
If you let them talk about themselves long enough you wind up in bed with them.
Women are like...refrigerators
They're always cold and never seem to have a beer when you need one.
Women are like...blue jeans
They look good for a while but eventually they fade and have to be replaced.
Women are like...country western songs
If you really listen to them you'll get depressed and drink a lot.
Or I've finally just had enough. Those of you that were here when I was on before know the entire story of most of my adult life as it involved "her". I have come to know some nice people here and can't say enough good things about what being to post here and get real honest feedback from y'all means to me. I am happy yet sad at the same time to say that I am going to get over "her" this time. I did something today I never could after she first left, over 2 years that I couldn't even think about "our" song (More Than Words). Today I heard it on the radio and there was no tears, no sad feelings and I even love the song again. I no longer sit here wondering where she is and if she is thinking of me, I hope she is not. I guess the past nine months is just what I needed because I think I would have always wondered but now I know. This part is kinda weird I think but with the separation and divorce I know exactly how long she was gone (2 years 1 month and 8 days) this time it has been less than a month but I already can't tell you what day she left. I now know I will get over her and learn to go on without her. I am, of course, not ready to do so yet but I know it will happen. I know I will still have those days when it will hurt until I find someone to fill my heart again, but I know I can handle them, I know y'all will help me handle them. I want to thank all of you that have helped till now and those that will help when I have those days. I hope I can help you also when you too need help. Thanks much love and happy searching to you all.---Tom
You ladies can read also, I won't mind. I have been reading the blogs for a few days now and am starting to see a pattern from a few certain guys on here. I wish this one was still here because I would like to tell him a few things but he has chosen to take his toys and go home, I will however ask you ladies this--could you really see yourself in a relationship with someone that quotes his IQ to you every chance he gets? I have not read anything he wrote except the boxes where some have quoted him yet he still pi$$es me off.
To another guy here, I want to say his name so bad but I will use a little decorum here. I those that word because that is what he seems to lack decorum and tact. I looked at your profile and saw that you are a grown man of (almost gave it away who I'm talking to) lets just say you are older than me yet you say things to the ladies here that a 15 year old knows better than say, one with a proper upbringing anyway. Maybe this is just the southern coming out in me but I was reared to be a gentleman and this includes treating a lady like a lady (in public anyway lol). you start most of your post well but you seem to not know where to start. There is more than one time this happened but the one that inspired this post is this. One of the ladies ask for an opinion, nothing more, you gave a nice compliment but also add that she is not for you. ( still love y'all tho) Anyway, you should have stopped with the compliment. The only time to tell a lady she is not for you is if she winks at you and even then I think you should be ready with a reason why just in case. The reason I say this part is if it's something about the profile tell her, if it's her looks don't tell her. See thats how it works, it's called thinking, it hurts but we all get over it. (I love that joke). Anyway, the ladies on this site are not the type to let this go so several comments are made about you then you just pick up your shovel and dig that hole you are in deeper. From the comments you come back with it is apparent you are either embarrassed, pi$$ed or both, LET IT GO. You have 3 choices here 2 are good one is bad you seem to always take the one bad one. You can either apologize, just let it drop or fight back, you always fight back. Not good.
I seek not to embarrass anyone but to pass on what I hope is wisdom. I want you guys to know that all these ladies know about you is what you put on here through profiles and anywhere you decide to speak on the site. I will admit that some of the ladies seem to be looking for a reason to squabble all the time (yes I know I'm gonna get it for that one.) Think guys, thats all I'm saying, It's not that hard to hit the Preview button down there and read what you are about to put out there for the world to read. I think I can give all the men here a little piece of advice about this, ask butter, he seems to know how to think with his upper head (I said upper instead of bigger cause I don't know him like that HA!). I just hope the guy I'm speaking of here figures out its him and takes this to heart instead of pushing back like is his normal pattern.Good luck to all---Tom
(my typing finger hurts now I need to reboot)