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Posted on Mon, Oct 15, 2007 19:13

You know... I find it kind of funny. This crazy thing called existence. I just joined LargeFriends today out of sheer frustration over what's happening in my little corner of universe. I'm glad I did... and thanks for the winks ;) But wow... just wow. So here's a story. It begins in a little place called Baltimore in a little state called Maryland in a little country with lots of states. Once upon a time, there was a lovely, firey-haired fat girl. She's cheerful and kind. She has it together, you know? Doesn't always know what she -wants- but definitely has an understanding of what she doesn't... however... as in all fairy tales, there's a villain and she's named: Crazy Girl. Yes. Crazy Girl. We all know this girl. She might have a husband and some kids. She might be single. She might be thin or fat, blonde or brunette, but in general... she's currrrrAzee. I'm sure you've met her. No amount of attention is ever enough. Aggressiveness is her forte. Stepping on people to get what she wants is a part of life. And you know what? Crazy girl. No matter what shape she shifts into, is ALWAYS, without FAIL, surrounded by... *drum roll* men. Why is this? I honestly have NO clue. I have a little theory that may or may not work. Men love two things. Breasts, and fixing stuff. Do they love crazy girl because she had breasts.. and a malfuctioning psyche? Or is it something else? I'm befuddled. Shed some light? Anyone? Cause I'm about ready to round up the crazies and lock them in a cage in a land far far away. /sigh


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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 12:14

Men want "crazy girl" because "crazy girl" needs them. Not only is it the excitement but men want to feel useful and needed too. Men feel intimidated or threatened by women who know what they want and are successful and can look after themselves on a day to day basis. Because "equality of the sexes" in the workplace many women believe this equality has translated to relationships. It hasn't. Men want to feel like men somewhere and "crazy girl" massages their natural hunter/gatherer/protective instincts. Summary: give up therapy the ant-depressants etc., and just go CRAZY!!


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Posted on Wed, Oct 24, 2007 21:11

can i apply for the position cutie lol


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Posted on Mon, Oct 22, 2007 15:41

Some men (like some women who like "dangerous" men) need crazy girl drama to make them feel alive. They find it exciting. I believe it is an immaturity thing. After our divorce my ex- dated crazy girl. She got him arrested because they had a shoving match in the parking lot of a bar (by the way he never laid an abusive finger on me). She's so crazy she once jumped out of a moving vehicle he was driving because they were having an argument. She showed up at my door one day after they'd been dating for about 6 months to ask me if I was sleeping with him because she was crazy jealous. Believe it or not that stroked his ego. Guess what? He married her. Yup. They've been married about 12 years now. Almost as long as we were.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 21, 2007 03:47

Hmm. I`m afraid that I try and avoid Women like Crazy Girl at all costs . they tend to be more trouble than they are worth and a total waste of Time . Anyway good Luck in your search for someone Special . Bless You Peter (Petersh55)


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Posted on Wed, Oct 17, 2007 19:42

Re: butterbll write: There is a fine line between being needing some one for who they are and just needing a Warm Body.One must be careful of whom the bring in to their lives ( think the movies "Fatal Atrraction and Misery".)

Whaaaaaaat!!! You mean I can't threaten, tie up, harass, stalk or kidnap a warm body when I want? Now that is no fair dang it!!! WEG


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Posted on Wed, Oct 17, 2007 19:39

Re: SweetCicely write: Wylde, Amen, sister! I agree; we should not confuse confidence with craziness. And more power to women who are not afraid to let their voices be heard. The definition of craziness for me is behavior that causes harm to oneself or others "just because." Ever heard of someone who messed with someone else's head because "it was fun"? That's crazy. Addictions can make people do things that look crazy, but there are concrete reasons behind them. The type of crazy that drives me . . .crazy . . is the profligate crazy, the "cuz I wanted to" kind. Bleah! "Proclivity", too, eh? How many men do you think are reaching for their dictionaries at this moment, expecting something salacious . . . LOL! Amy

Yes, I would agree that "messing with someone's head" definitely falls into the crazy category. Or those that do whatever it takes to get what they want at the cost of others in deliberately hurtful, spiteful, duplicitous or hateful ways. ROFLMAO about the men getting out the dictionaries. That is too funny. Now they will be looking up salacious!!! hahahahaha


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Posted on Wed, Oct 17, 2007 12:44

There is a fine line between being needing some one for who they are and just needing a Warm Body.One must be careful of whom the bring in to their lives ( think the movies "Fatal Atrraction and Misery".)


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Posted on Tue, Oct 16, 2007 23:19

Wylde, Amen, sister! I agree; we should not confuse confidence with craziness. And more power to women who are not afraid to let their voices be heard. The definition of craziness for me is behavior that causes harm to oneself or others "just because." Ever heard of someone who messed with someone else's head because "it was fun"? That's crazy. Addictions can make people do things that look crazy, but there are concrete reasons behind them. The type of crazy that drives me . . .crazy . . is the profligate crazy, the "cuz I wanted to" kind. Bleah! "Proclivity", too, eh? How many men do you think are reaching for their dictionaries at this moment, expecting something salacious . . . LOL! Amy


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Posted on Tue, Oct 16, 2007 21:07

Crazy doesn't have an expiration date. I checked, nothing stamped on my butt...LOL Amy, you crack me up, ornate forms of sexuality, I like that. I do have to say that my world falls far into the ornate at times. But, that is my proclivity. I think we mustn't confuse the crazy ones with the confident ones. At times women who are confident may appear as if they are overbearing, taking advantage of a person/situation, etc. when in fact that's not the case. Now of course, I do know some that appear confident but it's just sheer insanity that motivates them...LOL All in all, instead of worrying about what another has or gets, think about what it is we want. Explore what intrigues you and follow your dreams. And it never hurts to be a bit crazy now and again. My little guru pep talk... namaste


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Posted on Tue, Oct 16, 2007 20:09

Dirk, Dirk, Dirk, "You should be bringing out the t*ys and role playing right from the start"??? I always thought of the more . . um . . . ornate forms of sexuality as something one saved until they were needed. A little bit of spice is nice, but use the whole jar on one dish and what's left? Besides the antacids, of course . . . Amy


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Posted on Tue, Oct 16, 2007 12:46

Ya got it mostly right. Men are from Mars, Women from Venus. Trying to understand it is what drives people nuts. So don't. Plans and goals are nice. So I'm told. I never had any. Takes the pressure off so you can enjoy life a little. If aspirations work for you then by all mean set some benchmarks and outline some projects and deltas and whatever floats your boat. Uncle Tony's 2 cents: take advantage of the opportunities. Set yourself up for good things. Fight the battles you can win. Use a guy for what he can do for you. Shallow you say? Look what being serious is doing to you? Find your niche and wallow in it.


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Posted on Tue, Oct 16, 2007 07:31

Ni et al, Yup. Crazy goes bad, even with refrigeration. So what happens when the excitement is gone? Married folks have been dealing with this for years. We have, depending on who you talk to, 6 months to 2 years of infatuation with a person before that excitement goes "POOF!" I guess it goes to the heart of the issue: are we forming relationships to fill some need for emotional thrill? If we are, we can expect short term relationships. This is an "on average" sort of thing and there are exceptions, but a cursory reading of the postings here will confirm that this is pretty common. I wish I had a solution for it. I don't think playing crazy will help, except in the very short term. Most people on LF seem to be looking for long term relationships, or at least say they are. Is staying in a relationship that has lost its spark "settling"? Do we break out the s*x t*ys and role playing at that point in some attempt to regain it, or are love and attraction so completely independent that this point is where we demonstrate the meaning of commitment? Dunno. Amy


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Posted on Tue, Oct 16, 2007 05:20

Welcome to LF BG!!! Amy you hit a nerve there, the exciting is well EXCITING !!! our lives are tedious, enter excitement and you have MY attention. Most of us are tired of the everyday "normal" so yeah, the risk takers are out there getting the attention. They step up to the plate and take a risk for all it's worth. My question is - When the risk slows down to a dull "normal" routine what happens? Does the guy or gal move on? If they move on where do they go? To the next risk taker? The next person willing to toss caution to the wind? Be crazy, but does crazy have and expiration date? Nat32132


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Posted on Mon, Oct 15, 2007 21:36

Hey BG, My theory? Crazy is fascinating. Normal is boring. Ya know, they've done studies about attraction and found that anything that is thrilling can be mistaken by our psyches for love. Roller coasters, scary movies and unpredictable, demanding women seem to fit this bill. Alas, as many folks have said, nice is boring. Not that I am suggesting that you change - mean people s*ck - but being nice may take more effort. Would you change who you were, deep down, the values you have, just to be bright and shiny for a moment? Yeah, I would sometimes, too . . .:) And, btw, looks like you may work at a Ren Faire. I did, for years, great fun and a great place to meet FAs. Good luck to you! Amy


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Posted on Mon, Oct 15, 2007 20:18

I'm waiting on the answer to that one myself. And if you can get that answer please tell me why those same crazy people get into leadership roles? I guess some people enjoy being lead off a cliff?


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