I just have to ask (and this would mainly be directed at the other women here)how do you handle the whole confidence issue? The term "painfully shy" has been used to describe me more than once. Personality-wise I am not some trembling faint-heart but you wouldn't know it when you meet me because I don't talk(online as well as real life.) I guess what I'm asking is this, I want to be comfortable and confident in my own skin and I'm wondering how so many of you seem to have gotten to that point.