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Posted on Mon, Oct 16, 2006 08:58

I have a twin sister who has been married for little over a year. She has been in a relationship of one form or another with him for more than three years. To this day, she will not allow him to see her nude in daylight, candle light or in the bathtub. She has never showered with him, nor has she ever stood before him topless. She is about a size 22 and I am closer to 24... and I have never had a problem being nude with any lover I have had. So of course, I don't really understand her reluctance to be uncovered in front of him. I have asked, several times, why she is so phobic, and she has said to me, "if I can't stand my flab, how can he?" .. she is so afraid that he just couldn't stomach her jelly that she just absolutely refuses to let him see her. As a matter of fact, she gets downright nasty and frantic when he tries to sneak into the bathroom while she is in the bathtub. Now, I would understand her reluctance if they were a "new" couple.. but they have a child together.. they are like, way past the point of accepting eachother's faults. He loves her, every inch of skin, every stretch mark she has no idea he has seen.. but this doesn't compute with her. She doesn't know WHY or HOW he could love her and be attracted to her when she can't even look at herself in the mirror. YES, I realize this is a psychological issue and that she needs lots of therapy.. BUT THAT IS ANOTHER SUBJECT. What I want to find out here is: Why are some men attracted to BBW's? Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their hearts. I know why women are attracted to who would be considered the fugliest guy on the planet.. all you gotta have is a big heart. But men out there, you loving, gentle creatures who are too few and far between who are actually ATTRACTED TO JELLY ROLLS: Why do you like to see us naked? What about a droopy makes your blood boil? What exactly is so fascinating about a roll that you yearn to slide your tongue into the crevace? I mean, lets face it. Us fat girls know how to appreciate a good man. EVERYONE know's this. This is the reason some men want to attract BBW's. Attention. You want attention? Find a fat girl. Problem is, these guys aren't ATTRACTED to jelly, therefore the relationship is doomed from the get-go. Internet dating goes great, but once you meet.. or discuss meeting, it's all over.

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Posted on Sat, Sep 07, 2013 16:35

First of all:  the PRINT in this blog needs to be LARGER.   Well, this size is sufficient . . . but the size that I see on this blog / comment section is kinda tough.   OK?

Second, I'm starting to wonder about myself . . why am I attracted to larger, bigger ladies.   I don't know yet.   But can I be honest enough to say the following:

 

  What we really need is separate categories for merely larger-than-average women versus the "clearly-obese" ones.   Hey, I'm not perfect; but there comes a point at which obesity is a real "turn-off".   I'm sorry for being so blunt here.   Does SSBBW do the 'job' of describing, in comparison to BBW?   The ideal woman, in my view, was a body like Anna Nicole Smith:  tall and well proportioned.   I don't care if they have 20 - 25 lbs. more than they 'should' . . . but 45, 55, 65 lbs. or more is clearly gross.

   I don't care if the woman is ten to maybe twenty pounds overweight, but forty-five or more is 'beyond the pale' and not something that I can handle.   Sorry, girls:  I'm just trying to be reasonable.  



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Posted on Thu, Feb 23, 2012 12:36

Some folk built like this, some folk built like that But the way I'm built, you shouldn't call me fat Because I'm built for comfort, I ain't built for speed But I got everything all the good girls need I don't have no diamond, and I don't have no gold But I've got a lot of lovin' and I want you to know That I'm built for comfort, I ain't built for speed But I got everything all the good girls need Some folk built like this, some folk built like that But the way I'm built, you shouldn't call me fat Because I'm built for comfort, I ain't built for speed But I got everything all the good girls need Some folk rip and roar, some folk b'lieve in signs But if you want me, you got to take your time Because I'm built for comfort, I ain't built for speed But I got everything all the good girls need But I got everything all the good girls need I, I love you baby I, I love you baby But I got everything all of the good girls need And I don't got no diamonds, don't have no gold Got a lot of lovin' to satisfy your soul I'm built for comfort, I ain't built for speed But I got everything all the good girls need


Proud BBW sending you love!

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Posted on Thu, Feb 23, 2012 12:14

Your sisters husband needs to undress her slowly with an admiring look in his eyes, show her how beautiful she is, explore her body like it is the most beautiful treasure he has ever seen, thereby easing her fears, trust me I know this works because I too use to run around with a sheet covering me and the guy I was dating at the time did the same to me and made me feel so beautiful that I walked around the house nude all the time when he was there. He always called me his "FANTASY FLESH with the whole package, looks, brains, and body".


Proud BBW sending you love!

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Posted on Sun, Jun 05, 2011 20:46

f ' (x) = 5(x)^8 cos 5x + 8(x)^7 sin 5x


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Posted on Sat, Sep 25, 2010 15:28

Amuse me: thanks for this blog, it is restoring my faith !!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!


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Posted on Thu, Sep 23, 2010 18:30

Why are some men attracted to BBW's? I think a lot of people have given the right answer, and that is that there are an astronomical amount of different answers. Everyone has their different reasons for why they like someone or something. I think I like BBW's because my first real girlfriend was a little chubby and I couldn't keep my hands off her. Just as 'fatlover4BBW' does, I also love to touch, rub, caress, grope and feel every part of a woman's body, especially in the shower. There's something about a little extra cushion that just turns me (and a lot of other guys) on. It's... ...sexy, and I truly can't tell you why. There's no specific reason, sorry girls. There isn't something you can do, say or wear that will get a guy to like you if he's not interested. Some guys like BBW's and some guys don't. I like BBW's a lot, but I can go for a slim chick, too. It totally depends on the girl. ...for me, at least...


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Posted on Sat, Apr 19, 2008 13:41

What does BBW mean? Big Beautiful Woman, right? So it is a word that has something to do with women. I DO like women, defititely: that means I want to hug them, touch them, seeing them naked, showering with them, make love to them, laughing with them, having fun with them, enjoy life with them, I wanna cry or smile with them. A woman is a woman, a BBW is probably, to me, more nice and pleasant to stay with than a slim woman. If I look back at the girlfriends I had, I must admit that some of them were more curvy and "fat" (in a very positive and erotic meaning) then others. So? What does it mean? nothing really. There's never a good answer to: why do u like a BBW? I could ask, why did I fall in love of this woman and not of that another? If I knew... Sometimes it's something about the shape of the body, sometimes in a big body there's a great woman!


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Posted on Fri, Jul 06, 2007 05:28

I've been reading this thread - I did not find too many answers to the question. Then I thought that there might not be an answer. Why are men attracted to thinner women? Why are women attracted to thin men or heavy men. I think it comes down to the personality, the attraction, the "clickability". I know that a BBW or a BBH have just as many issues, society issues, as the models of the world. Insecurity does not have a shape, it has a foothold in all of our lives. I've not met anyone that does not have some degree of insecurity about themselves. Self assured is not rare. I can see from many of the profiles here that there are some very self assured people. It's easier to hide that self doubt in a profile. It's safe to chat with someone on IM, just a flick of a switch away from turning the PC off. Face to face is the real deal. Regardless of thin or fat - male or female, there is going to be an attraction to someone for a variety of reasons. I've been paying attention and I've come to the conclusion that it's either going to work or it isn't and we all have to sift through many to find THE ONE. We only need one person to share our lives with, finding that one person is not easy. IS it worth it? HECK YEAH !! Natalie


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Posted on Fri, May 18, 2007 22:20

LatinDancer21- I Whole Heartily Agree with you


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Posted on Fri, Apr 27, 2007 20:11

Hey yall, Now that I have really learned the ropes of how figure our repsonses get posted in the blogs - I have to set the record straight about my response in box #55. My response of "well put you seem like a catch" was directed at what whitetigger said in post #1 not the big mellon guy. That big mellon comment in this forum was just crass. But as far as getting nude in front of my man - I love it. By the time I become lovers with someone I am sure that they will absolutely delight in seeing the total package in the daylight even and it is fun to see the excited reaction. Amuse, I am in the size 22 category too and I have to say when I was much younger and I was much smaller I did not have the confidence to be so playful and seen that I have gained through life experience. Being seen and appreciated by someone you care enough about to take as a lover feels wonderful.


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Posted on Tue, Apr 03, 2007 10:38

AmuseMe, You're kidding right? She won't let him see her naked? How can he stand it? I would let her know how much I love her and let her know how sexy she looks to me. I've seen beautiful slim women and I think, wow! Then I see a big beautiful woman and my heart starts pounding and I think to myself how bad I want to be with her! There is NOTHING like loving a bbw! My favorite time is when I'm with a bbw and we shower together. She puts on her favorite perfume and then powders herself with lavender scented body powder and she asks me to join her in bed to do some cuddling and loving. There is NOTHING better then to snuggle up and hold each other tight. All in a candle light bedroom with some love songs playing in the background..........


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Posted on Mon, Apr 02, 2007 21:54

I have been held and kissed by a BBW, there is nothing warmer, more sensual or genuine. And yes, I love looking at her nude profile.


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Posted on Sun, Apr 01, 2007 10:48

I love BBW..... Ain't nothing like the real thing baby.... Ain't nothing like the real thing...... I don't want to be hugging some bone pile.... give me a real woman!!!!! Love wrapping my arms around a BBW and feeling her next to me!!!


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Posted on Sat, Mar 31, 2007 20:00

BBWS Suffer the same problems and image hits as us BHM do.


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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 07:58

hi good looking


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Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2007 04:45

i have no problem in looking at the beauty of nude big woman and her massive boobs. i love those big melons


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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2007 19:08

I love BBW..I've found that BBW are much more sensual and I think BBW are the sexiest and I love caressing and giving you all the pleasure you want and desire.


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Posted on Fri, Mar 16, 2007 08:03

There's a whole debate in what you wrote. I'm happy with what I am and the way I look, I've learned to be happy with it but that's not to say it's the body I would have chosen had I been given the choice. I'm the type of person who sees the positive in everything... So I might not be the perfect body according to society's beauty standards, but I'm intelligent, outgoing, all around well grounded. Those are important. As for being nude... I never got that.. probably because someone told me very early on and I would suggest you tell your sister the same... It's not as if he doesn't know... He married her seeing her body in clothes. Does she think she gains 50 pounds when she undresses. Clothes might cover, but even if we would like to sometimes, they don't hide the body... he sees her flab everyday, with clothes on... Cover a pick up truck with a sheet of fabric and tell me you think it's a volkswagen beetle.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 11, 2007 03:34

real women have curves as my mom says


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