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Posted on Thu, Nov 09, 2006 15:27

Hey ya'll. I had an interesting conversation with a co-worker today. We were discussing my sucess with weight loss and she wanted to know the name of the prescription drug I am "obviously" taking because she wants to lose - get this - 2 pounds. I choked on my bottled water.. spit it everywhere. You know her kind. The PRISCILLA kind that likes to be called PRISSY. Primp and fuss, fifi. I swear her waist is smaller than her own 2 year old daughter's. So she makes it a habit to eat yogurt for lunch, everyday, because if she gaines even 2 pounds her pants don't fit. I don't think, for as long as I live, I will ever be able to wrap my mind around two pounds keeping me out of a pair of pants. Could you imagine being so little? I can't. Well, today she claimed she was getting fat. And I thought I had nerve. Here is this 5'8" at the most 115lb "princess" whining to me, a 5'6" 280lb brickhouse about how she has gained 2lbs. and can't have sex with her hubby because her tummy isn't flat anymore. ARE YOU SERIOUS? I haven't been able to see my own pubic hair without shifting me belly jelly around or well placed mirrors since I first grew pubic hair! The need to be visually appealing in this competition for the male affection has pitted female against female ... even if the female she is fighting is herself. Of course, she says to me when I tell her she is absolutely infreakinsane: "If I get fat, he'll cheat on me with someone who isn't". I blame men for this. I just want you all to know. Not you kind, gentle hearted creatures here who love us perfectly flawed as we are, but the male species in general who lust after tight child-like bodies with no curve or bounce. That's what I think they look like ... all those twiggies out there wagging their bony arses cheering "I'm sexy because the only thing that moves on me is my mouth". It's not all man's fault ... I know this so please no haters. But since christiandom and before, women have been ordered, trained, brainwashed and manipulated into molding themselves into what the male of the species thought she should be, look like and do. Problem is, we are more than happy to cat-fight over a man. I don't get it either. (BTW, I am not on diet pills, and PRISSY'S grief and disappointment with the knowledge that I wasn't going to front her some was written all over her face.)


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Thu, Nov 09, 2006 15:11

Hello - at this point (37) of my life I've decided that any man who's interested in me isn't going to be surprised w/ what he see's when the clothes are off & the lights are on. Black may be slimming but it's not going to change what's underneath!


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Posted on Thu, Nov 09, 2006 12:44

I have NEVER stood completely naked in front of ANY person besides probably my parents since they bathed me as a baby LOL. AM i phobic?? AH !!! Maybe it is because I have never been with a man who loves BBW You know? i am not sure. Like Lazy and pantylvr seem like they enjoy the rolls and stuff. I seem not to believe them. I am not a large BBW in fact I am barely considered a BBW. it's just me and my self Consciousness. KISSY


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Posted on Wed, Nov 08, 2006 19:30

Hello Sexy Tina, I have also been in some abusive relationships. Please realize that has nothing to do with your self worth. I see a picture of a beautiful woman before me.(your picture Sexy Tina) I have met some beautiful women that were beautiful and thin and sexy.But once they opened there mouth they showed how dark their heart was and how they were so full of them self. They became ugly and unattractive to me in a few seconds. The outward beauty goes away with time,but,the inner beauty lasts forever. I feel that beauty comes from the heart and then shines brightly through that person. Your self worth should never come from someone else. It comes from you. God loves you the way you are. I know I need to lose weight for health reasons.(High Blood Pressure,etc.) I want to live a long time.But I have a lot of great female friends that accept me as I am and love me as I am as a friend. I am still struggling with my self esteem with my weight. It takes time. Please love yourself as you are. Please take care and do not be hard on yourself. Scott


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Posted on Wed, Nov 08, 2006 13:41

what bigheart said!!!!!!!!!


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Posted on Wed, Nov 08, 2006 10:54

I think they are the most beautifl women on the Planet, they are patient for the most part and of course SO sexy. I just like those bighearts they have about alomst everything


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Posted on Tue, Nov 07, 2006 22:21

big thick women are a must for me. I love women, but a women with something to hold onto is so very sexy to me.Especially if she is not afraid to show the inner beauty she has. that makes her even more sexy. full figured women are the best ....it's his fault!! her body ha not been shown that it is loved. a hot tongue,warm hands and alot of patients makes for confident women! he needs to explore harder and longer and the clothes will come off......day,night,and lights on!!


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Posted on Mon, Nov 06, 2006 18:19

i can understand were your coming from because my wife hates getting undressed in front of me even though she is only a size 16 , personaly im only on this site to make friends but i find larger ladies more attractive because of the wonderful sense of humour and out look on life that 9 out of 10 larger women hav , they always manage to make conversation and nights out more fun and enjoyable . to ask wot men see in larger women when they have sex , it does not come down to the size of the body , excess fat or stretch marks it comes down to pure animal magnatism of wanting to make love to that person at that time . i believe that once you know that person wether they are short , tall , skinny or fat your perception of them alters anyway . well thats just my view but i have been known to be wrong plenty of times


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Posted on Tue, Oct 31, 2006 17:46

Hey you guys and gals. I loved reading all your ideas, thoughts, likes and dislikes! The same point with slightly varying qualities. I realize that we all feel self-concious at some point in our lives, and it's how we see our own reflection that truly matters. But it is still nice to be told, especially by someone we give our google-eyes to, that we are beautiful in every way - to them. I thank you all for posting and giving me some insight! I lub youse! Ya'll are awesome!


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Mon, Oct 23, 2006 19:46

Well Jo i have to say i am one who loves the Jelly as you have put it there is nothing wrong with it i think people are way to hard on then self's and that goes for me as well all tho love and lust are different i think if you have love then the lust comes with love cause if you love someone you should love everything about the i hate this people who tell there loved one you need to lose weight or i am leaving WHAT THE HILLS is that about if you love them you love them for who they are not what they look like no matter if they are a size 5 to 28 or more you can stand in front of me naked or fully dressed and if there is love there then you are the most beautiful woman on the planet to me even is your tummy is not tight i like to have a lady with Jelly thank you very much lol i guess my point is that if someone loves you then the lust should also be there Keep your head up high ladies you all are beavutiful and speical in your own way Jeff


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Posted on Mon, Oct 23, 2006 19:24

I used to be very self-conscious about being seen in the nude. The funny thing is, is that is when I was a size 8! I had very little self esteem then, and even though I had one of those "tight little bodies", I thought I was the ugliest person on earth. That was 25 yrs ago. Now that I'm all grown up and learned a few things, I really don't give two rats about what people think. I'm now a size 22 and have never been happier. I know that I'm a good, loving person and one day I'll meet my "Mr. Right for me". And even if I don't, I'll still live happily ever after. Only I am responsible for my own happiness...a good man just compliments it. The only issue I have being bigger is that I have long legs & it's a pain to try to find pants that are long enough for me. The only issue I have right now about being seen nude is that I have a hernia from lifing an 80 lb. drive at work. I don't really want anyone seeing it until next year when it's fixed. You all have a wonderful evening & take care : )


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Posted on Mon, Oct 23, 2006 18:49

I think BBW's are the ideal woman. Woman should be soft and have curves. Large hips, butts and breast are very sexy. I can never understand men who like woman who's collar or pelvic bones stick out! It just gives me the willies seeing that. Also, when I touch a woman I want to feel her, not her bones. You may call them rolls, but to me they are sexy curves. Lastly perky breast are overrated. I am attacted to large breast and if the breast are truly large they won't be perky. Thanks for reading my 2 cents.


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Posted on Mon, Oct 23, 2006 02:29

I do agree that men are very visual. We do seem to respond kind of automatically to beautiful feminine curves, and the fuller and thicker those curves are, the prettier and more alluring they are. I am most attracted to wide, womanly hips, and when I see a curvy BBW or SSBBW with 50, 60, 70 or even 80 inch hips, my eyes are automatically attracted and my attention is automatically grabbed. It is funny to me that we all seem to accept that big... are very attractive to men, but we haven't quite admitted and accepted the idea that wide womanly hips, big beautiful butts, and full curvy legs have the same kind of natural attractive qualities. I know some very sexy BBWs who have a hard time seeing themselves or other BBWs as attractive women, and my thinking is that this is a result of having had such negative body image thoughts pounded into their heads forever, in this country. The truth is though, at least in my case (and I do believe a strong majority of men feel the same way) that BBWs and SSBBWs are physically, the most alluring women of all. Wide hips, big butts and voluptuous curvy legs, automatically capture our attention.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 22, 2006 22:01

Kewa.. good for you! It is heartening to hear these few and far between stories such as yours. Most often we see the big, beautiful woman neglected, verbally abused and ashamed. Men, too, I presume. But we are ladies and we deserve to be noticed, loved, cherished and called beautiful by someone we love. I hope he touches every part of your body with loving kisses and caresses! I am sure you have come full circle since those days that kept you depressed because of the abuse you suffered, and good for you there, too darling. I was never sexually abused as a child, and I wont pretend to know how you dealt with it.. but you obviously did and you have moved on to bigger and better things! We are all here for a purpose, our lives have great meaning and once each and every one of us realizes that, we will get past these individual insecurities and live a full, uninhibited life! ^5 to you and your hubby!!! Jeff, you have my heart in your hands, all you need to do is squeeze a little, let me know, huh? teehee. You are too sweet to be single. Dodo, men like you are a mystery to me. I want to peel away at you till I find your secrets, understand your mentality. Are you really attracted to the jelly.. or are you attracted to the fact that a bigger woman will appreciate you more as a partner, lover and friend?? Can you.. would you look at me, standing nude before you, and appreciate the fact that even at 17 my weren't perky? My tum will never be taught? Could you stand there with a pointed member and honestly say that I am sexy at a size 24? ;) This is what I am getting at.. Love and lust, lust and love.. yes, they are different, but we all need to feel both loved and lusted for. That was my point with writing this blog about my sister. She know's her hubby loves her.. but she doesn't know he is attracted to her. She doesn't see how he could lust for her. I just wanted to find out why, you BBW admirers out there, why you do find us attractive. Peace out ya'll. I lub youse guyse. ~J


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Sat, Oct 21, 2006 12:27

AmuseMe... I can relate to your sister's feelings about her body. I too used to be like that ... to some extent... although I did let my husband see me nude. However, I felt so undesirable when I looked at my body. A lot of my problem stemmed from being sexually molested when I was 8 yrs old. This affected my self-worth without me even realizing it. But I can tell you that it is possible to get past those feelings... because I have. I am a very confident sexy desirable woman and I "CHOSE" to stop letting others push their ideas of my body over onto me. My new husband tells me that I am the sexiest woman he has ever seen... and believe me... I reward him for it EVERY time!!! hehe


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Posted on Sat, Oct 21, 2006 09:49

Yes the is very true love and lust are different but i am not one to look for a lady to lust after been there done that i am a good hard working man that is looking a good woman to LOVE someone i can grow old with someone i can't get off my mind all day at work that i can't wait to get home to just to see how her day was ok ok i will stop lol you know it is good you told him to set and spin cause if anyone is going to tell you that is you LOSE A FEW POUND that you would be beautiful can we all say SHALLOW and that is lust they are after not love


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Posted on Sat, Oct 21, 2006 01:01

well AmuseMe, I for one was married for over 8 yrs to a lovely woman. the only prob was she was too thin. all skin and bone. it was a turn off. found out i preferred BBw's. both physically and emotionally. i find BBw's very very sexy.


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Posted on Fri, Oct 20, 2006 19:08

I can totally relate to not being ashamed of your body....so many women are and not just the bbw's....its so stupid....this is a one way trip and I am gonna have all the fun I can...no matter what size I am....if you don't love yourself how can you expect anyone else too...


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Posted on Thu, Oct 19, 2006 14:05

Yeah Johnny, I totally know what you mean. I express more confidence than her, because I refuse to let myself be otherwise. I am assertive and dominant and bossy because I got tired of listening to people tell me that I would be beautiful if I lost some weight. A jackass MD actually said to me once that if I lost weight he would love to date me. I told him to sit on his thumb and spin, and from that moment on I have not allowed anyone to bring me down or make me loath myself again. I don't give them a chance to form an opinion of me otherwise. ;) Now if I could just get my sister to open her eyes too. ~J


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Thu, Oct 19, 2006 09:33

I am just curious, you know. I know why the men that I have loved in the past loved me back, in the physical as well as emotional sense. I am not ashamed of my body - droopy all - nor am I too bashful to take a steamy shower with a lover. I can look in a mirror standing nude before it and know that I am jelly and beautiful. I am just curious as to how many men out there who claim to be BBW Admirers are actually physically attracted to us. After all, we are in a day and age where tight, sinew formed bodies are the preferred sexual advertisement. I have never really asked anyone because I have always been comfortable with my body, even when I was close to weighing 400lbs. I never questioned why someone was attracted to me. My sister's battle within herself and her husbands tireless effort to convince her she is sexy to him has me pondering and asking questions. whitetigger, I understand what you are saying, but once we realize that love and lust are seperate needs, seperate feelings, and that as a woman I want my lover to not only love me but lust FOR me. We need to recognize that looks do indeed matter, at least somewhat. One man's whiskey is another man's wine. Diamond is right though, you are very sweet. ;) ~J


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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