I've been reading these blogs for over a year now. We all seem to be seeking love, but what is love. Honestly I know we all have our own definition.
I know mine changed as I age (like a fine wine )
When I was a teenager, it was ROCK MY WORLD, then I wanted someone to take care of me, protect me as my Dad did.
THEN - a switch must have flipped on . I wanted a friend, a lover, a companion, a confidant, a buddy, a travel partner, someone to be my back up when I'm down. Someone that nee more...
I've been reading these blogs for over a year now. We all seem to be seeking love, but what is love. Honestly I know we all have our own definition.
I know mine changed as I age (like a fine wine )
When I was a teenager, it was ROCK MY WORLD, then I wanted someone to take care of me, protect me as my Dad did.
THEN - a switch must have flipped on . I wanted a friend, a lover, a companion, a confidant, a buddy, a travel partner, someone to be my back up when I'm down. Someone that needs me,wants me, enjoys spending time with me.
My current definition of love is a comfort zone of trust, honesty and respect. Vague but also powerful. I want companionship now, I want to have someone that can occupy himself when I need alone time. I want someone that also can go shopping with me or without me and pick up the things we might need as well as bringing me something I like " just because" I also want to be able to do the same for him.
I'm sure there's more but that's the icing on the cake right now.
Quoting: Originally posted by aimeefla Hi Ozredhead:
I don't think it's too much to ask for at all. I think it's rather reasonable in fact.
My thought is that it all starts from within ourselves. If he love and appreciate ourselves ...
Thanks goodness for that Aimee. Have been wondering over the years to whether I would ever find the total package that I am after.
I agree with you as that it is how you feel about yourself that makes a difference about the type of person you a more...
Quoting: Originally posted by aimeefla Hi Ozredhead:
I don't think it's too much to ask for at all. I think it's rather reasonable in fact.
My thought is that it all starts from within ourselves. If he love and appreciate ourselves than it would be easier to attract someone who appreciates and loves us as well. It would also be easier to love him if he shares that sentiment by loving himself and appreciating himself.
Nothing more draining than someone that needs constant bolstering. Yes, we all need to hear it from our partners, but when it's constant it's exhausting. Yes?
Aimee
Thanks goodness for that Aimee. Have been wondering over the years to whether I would ever find the total package that I am after.
I agree with you as that it is how you feel about yourself that makes a difference about the type of person you attract.
Over the years I have had all these types of love, but they have been only one at a time, never the whole package put together. I have felt that I have swayed from type of relationship to enter into a completely opposite direction in the next, but all were lacking in some way.
Each relationships has been an improvement, I guess as I have grown, understood myself and my needs better and perhaps chosen better.
I now feel that I am ready for that fairy tale type of relationship, that lasts happily ever after, where I know that it wont be perfect but we will both be perfectly willing to keep working at it till it is.
Now that partner I guess will have to be in similar page as me for it to work.
Yes It is very exhausting trying to make someone happy that is not happy within themselves, I've been there done that, and it doesn't work because no other person can really make you happy, that has to come from within.
Great post, thanks for letting me share here, damn nearly wrote a novel. he he xxx less...
Quoting: Originally posted by aimeefla I've been reading these blogs for over a year now. We all seem to be seeking love, but what is love. Honestly I know we all have our own definition.
I know mine changed as I age (like a fine wine )...
Nat, this is a great topic! :)
I guess I'm at the middle stage you described, "THEN - a switch must have flipped on . I wanted a friend, a lover, a companion, a confidant, a buddy, a travel partner, someone to be my back up when I'm down. S more...
Quoting: Originally posted by aimeefla I've been reading these blogs for over a year now. We all seem to be seeking love, but what is love. Honestly I know we all have our own definition.
I know mine changed as I age (like a fine wine )
When I was a teenager, it was ROCK MY WORLD, then I wanted someone to take care of me, protect me as my Dad did.
THEN - a switch must have flipped on . I wanted a friend, a lover, a companion, a confidant, a buddy, a travel partner, someone to be my back up when I'm down. Someone that needs me,wants me, enjoys spending time with me.
My current definition of love is a comfort zone of trust, honesty and respect. Vague but also powerful. I want companionship now, I want to have someone that can occupy himself when I need alone time. I want someone that also can go shopping with me or without me and pick up the things we might need as well as bringing me something I like " just because" I also want to be able to do the same for him.
I'm sure there's more but that's the icing on the cake right now.
What's your definition of Love?
Aimee
Nat, this is a great topic! :)
I guess I'm at the middle stage you described, "THEN - a switch must have flipped on . I wanted a friend, a lover, a companion, a confidant, a buddy, a travel partner, someone to be my back up when I'm down. Someone that needs me,wants me, enjoys spending time with me."
I want all of these things plus someone who just "gets me". Someone who can just "see me" and not the person they want me to be.
I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about love and marriage. I guess there's something in the air, something almost palpable. I'm not sure I'm ready to get remarried just yet. But I'm definitely ready to find love again......if that's even possible
As Prince Charles once said, "whatever Love is." Love means different things to different people. And one person, can have several stages of what they call 'Love'.
Wheather they love someone,JUST enough,NOT to stray.Or love them more,and want to marry them...or die for them...or kill for them.
Or think they don't love them as much as the did,then stray,but stay in the relationship.
This is a tough one Aimeefla...a TOUGH one! What if one person falls in love more/quicker with the ot more...
As Prince Charles once said, "whatever Love is." Love means different things to different people. And one person, can have several stages of what they call 'Love'.
Wheather they love someone,JUST enough,NOT to stray.Or love them more,and want to marry them...or die for them...or kill for them.
Or think they don't love them as much as the did,then stray,but stay in the relationship.
This is a tough one Aimeefla...a TOUGH one! What if one person falls in love more/quicker with the other? Do they go along with the other person,to please them/not risk hurting them? Or say...Hold on a bit,lets slow down here? Mmmmmmmmm? Talking i think, is the best way to find out how fast/slow each other wants to take THEIR relationships. Mmmmmmmm? A tough one! less...
Love is Being there for your partner at 2 am in the morning when they are sick with the flu. Sitting there and just holding her for no special reason .Suprising her with flowers, and choclates for no special reason. The way he looks longingly at you when you walk in to the kitchen in your flannel nighty and Hair all a mess. The way he kisses you in the middle of the day for no reason.The way he rescues you from the "Teribble creepy bug" in the bathtub.The way he keeps silent at fam more...
Love is Being there for your partner at 2 am in the morning when they are sick with the flu. Sitting there and just holding her for no special reason .Suprising her with flowers, and choclates for no special reason. The way he looks longingly at you when you walk in to the kitchen in your flannel nighty and Hair all a mess. The way he kisses you in the middle of the day for no reason.The way he rescues you from the "Teribble creepy bug" in the bathtub.The way he keeps silent at family get togethers about your mothers Famous(In her own mind) :"Tuna and Spam Suprise cassarole".Even though he hates it. the way he allows you to remodel the bathroom to include a Boudet even though he won't use it. the way he lets you sleep in his arm even though he hasen't felt anything in the last hour since you fell asleep on it. less...
emotional love...that feeling of safeness that no matter what, you will be accepted, if I gain 50 lbs will you still want me,,of course when you are in love it doesn't matter....don't you notice that when people get married they gain weight? Physical love...Black lace, nice perfume some lube of some kind and some soft rope would do the trick perfectly. MMMMMMMMM
I don't think it's too much to ask for at all. I think it's rather reasonable in fact.
My thought is that it all starts from within ourselves. If he love and appreciate ourselves than it would be easier to attract someone who appreciates and loves us as well. It would also be easier to love him if he shares that sentiment by loving himself and appreciating himself.
Nothing more draining than someone that needs constant bolstering. Yes, we all need to hear it from our p more...
Hi Ozredhead:
I don't think it's too much to ask for at all. I think it's rather reasonable in fact.
My thought is that it all starts from within ourselves. If he love and appreciate ourselves than it would be easier to attract someone who appreciates and loves us as well. It would also be easier to love him if he shares that sentiment by loving himself and appreciating himself.
Nothing more draining than someone that needs constant bolstering. Yes, we all need to hear it from our partners, but when it's constant it's exhausting. Yes?
Love is several different things for me. One is security - security in knowing that I won't be judged or criticized. Protection - knowing that he protects me emotionally and tries to keep the negative outside influences from affecting me. Comfort - knowing that even though I know my body isn't perfect, he thinks it is. The fat, bloaty days disappear when I come into the room and his eyes light up and he tells me how wonderful I look. Love is also the butterfly feelings I still get when he k more...
Love is several different things for me. One is security - security in knowing that I won't be judged or criticized. Protection - knowing that he protects me emotionally and tries to keep the negative outside influences from affecting me. Comfort - knowing that even though I know my body isn't perfect, he thinks it is. The fat, bloaty days disappear when I come into the room and his eyes light up and he tells me how wonderful I look. Love is also the butterfly feelings I still get when he kisses me or how my hand feels in his when we are walking. Love is also the contentment knowing I have found my soulmate and I have the person I am meant to be with. Love is the feeling of going to sleep next to and waking up next to the man of my dreams. Love is knowing that I have someone who puts me as his priority and no matter what I have someone who will support, encourage, defend and love me. I have only been in love for a year and I know it will continue to change and grow because it already has but the feeling of being cherished will always be the same. And the best part is that everything I receive I get to give back and I love it! less...
I agree with your definitions of love. I want a man that when we look at each other at the age of 70-80, we still feel and have the same emotions we did 30-40 years ago. A love that when one of us is apart we can't stand it. A love that after a disagreement, we still find a way to say "I love you."
