Wow... people ARE jaded!
Posted on Feb 03, 2009 at 12:27 AM
Okay... So I decided to start my own blog about this... because I feel bad taking over someone elses blog that contain valid and personal views or questions to answer and respond to the questions posed and posts directed towards me.
First off... Yes... I'm really only 26 years old. Physically. HOWEVER... age is only a number. Anyone with a decent amount of experience will know that age doesn't always justify experience. I have been told many times and I have "an old soul." And most times I can believe it. A lot of things seem routine and mundane to me. Like... things that seem like common sense to me are life changing concepts to some others.
Bundled with the 'age is only a number' mentality is the belief that it goes both ways. My profile may state that I'm interested in 18-36 year old women. However that's just a random number I picked because honestly I don't give a flying hoot as long as there are no legal ramifications and compatibility levels click on an acceptable scale.
As to the question posed about being pen pals. The answer is a simple yes. To any and all comers. I love giving advice and trying to help people see their way through the daily trials and tribulations, life altering or non. Fair warning however, because I have been known to be very blunt about certain things at times. But usually that's only when I see a need to brutally honest.
My favorite tactic is to dance around the point I'm trying to make. I've found that if I can LEAD someones thought process in a certain way so that they themselves come up with the advice or view point I'm trying to convey, the point is taken much more to heart and more deeply understood and accepted then when I just state it simply and be done with it.
This is because I've found that people as a general whole don't think in the same manner that I do. I know I tend to think about 6 different thoughts at one time, each usually on a different level consisting of emotional reaction, logical reaction, Possible outcomes, Reasons for the emotional response in the first place and what happend to cause such examination.
So getting back to what I was saying about people. Advice usually never works because it's usually given from only the advisers viewpoint. Don't do this because, and you should try that. They usually fail to remove themselves from their own person and seek to view life from someone elses eyes. They don't understand the fundamental reasons why a person would be reacting in a certain way to said stimuli.(See: catalyst, or event)
I try my best to understand what's going on in their world through their eyes. Everyone's different. Like my profile says, Reality is as you choose to perceive it. And each individual has their own version of reality.
Returning to my point... It's something I enjoy. Helping and being there if only for emotional support. I'm wired weird in that sense. The best way to explain it is this, and forgive the slightly graphic image this might induce.
When I'm making love to a woman, If she's not getting it, I CAN'T get it. Same applies with me in life in general. I enjoy seeing people smile, or at least knowing they are. And the funny thing is, it's usually very easy to make them do just that. If you can understand where they're coming from...
Heh, and no, I'm not gay or even a woman in disguise. I am male. I am for real. I've just learned that just as my body incorporates both X and Y, So should my mind, heart and spirit. My grandmother was a wonderful teacher, and from meditation, astral traveling and the trials and tribulations of my own life I've learned that yes... I can indeed do it on my own... but it's always much more easy and enjoyable to do it with others.
So, to wrap this overly long blog up, If you need an ear to shout into, Or are seeking a heart to remind you that there are indeed a few decent humans out there in this cold "all or nothing, fend for yourself, sink or swim" world... I'm here, offering to do just that.